Ordinary Miracle

On By K.L. HaleIn Essay

“How am I going to explain this diagnostic summary to this parent?” I asked myself. Twenty-two years of life is all I had under my belt. Teaching, and motherhood, were new. My heart answered: “Be kind. State the facts. Tell this mom that a test does not define her child. Speak with love and compassion. Share the gifts and talents this young boy possesses.” My prayer at that age is the same prayer I speak aloud today. “God, give me the right words.”  

Sometimes my words can’t clearly express my heart. To my advantage, I knew a world before cell phones and devices. I’m so blessed to have grown up in the seventies and eighties. Speaking with courtesy and having good manners seemed to be a reasonable standard. The heart is even more powerful than words. The lack of words, too many words, the wrong words…they don’t always represent the heart well. A miracle might be needed.

“It seems you got the short end of the stick.” “You’ve had some rough times.” “You’ve healed already.” “You look good.” “This isn’t fair.” “Keep fighting” …just a few recent phrases I’ve heard. I’m going to share something crazy. In ways, this diagnosis gave me relief. Relief? Are you crazy, Karla? Multiple issues were skeletal due to various injuries. Since I’m as vulnerable as vulnerable can be now, I’ll share one diagnosis of I.B.S. (irritable bowel syndrome) years ago. My neck and back issues and other struggles poised me for pain. When life’s complications swirled it became harder to stay poised. I found joy in simple things, yet life was not always simple. There was internal joy despite a touch of depression (did you know you can experience depression and joy at the same time?). Others might label you as a “people pleaser” rather than recognize kindness and respect (friends, you can still have elevated expectations for yourself without others thinking you’re a pleaser). Love drove me. Respect for my position made me want to rise to the occasion of leading with love. This was not idealism. This is the truth I learned from an incredibly early age.

We were born to love. We’re made to love. Can it be harder when you physically can’t provide? It was for me. I scratched my head and wondered what was going on in my body. As much as I tried to be a support for others, a shoulder to cry on, an understanding ear-I was confused. The more I gave, the more expected. The bar seemed to rise. That’s when I fell flat on my faith. God wasn’t raising the bar; humans were. We can’t do things fast or conveniently enough. Comfort is craved. Our world spins faster and faster. We want immediate satisfaction at a touch of a button with lightning speed. We’re angry when it’s too slow. We need this. We need that. Me? My hope is in healing. I’m not fighting. I don’t want to fight. The quiet life of being alone with my words, working with those in need, and most importantly, spending time with my kids, grandkids, and family…yes, I desire those things. It’s an amazing stage of life. A stage. I don’t want to be on a stage. Particularly, Stage 4.

For several nights before meeting with the oncologist last Thursday I prayerfully, and quietly, asked for guidance on my words. The right words. The day came. He called us to his office to show us the scans (my scans were moved up earlier than expected). There was a shift in his demeanor when I shared my thoughts on “quality vs. quantity of life.” It was not easy sharing I desired a second opinion. In my research, I learned that any treatment is not a home run. However, I was willing to “step up to the plate” to try. My heart and head shared. He slipped off his mask and locked eyes with me. I told him how much I appreciate him and liked his manner and sense of humor. On Friday I will have another scan. I’m refusing to have “scanxiety” as I already know the facts. Cancer is everywhere. Radiation is our next step. There are additional tumors, and the chemo had no impact. Pain is more prevalent; it’s part of it. Neuroendocrine cancer is a slow-growing cancer, but it spreads quickly. I’ve had it for years. It’s essential to catch it early. There are good moments every day for I have an internal/eternal joy that will NEVER leave me. I didn’t get the “short end of the stick.” Life hasn’t been unfair. I’ve had a beautiful life filled with love and lessons. The hardest part about having a chronic illness? It can become a full-time job. You’re opening yourself up to the opinions, suggestions, and thoughts of others. Take it with HEART. Those that love you CARE. Friendship is a miracle.

I take full responsibility for my life-my decisions, what I put in my body, what I think, and what I do. Books loaned to me by well-meaning friends share all about nutrition and cancer. There’s truth and wisdom. What we put in our bodies DO MATTER. One young man wrote about how he beat cancer. I’m so happy for him! He beat it with nutrition! But the book began with how he had surgery. Surgery. After surgery, he prevented further cancer with great nutrition and exercise (and quite costly habits). My cancer is inoperable. For the last 7 years, I have eaten salads, proteins, and exercised. I even climbed a mountain one time! Choices, at times, may not have been the best for my body. I found a doctor who lectures about stress and its impact on the body. Also, about sleep and its importance. Stress and the lack of sleep can do major damage. Knowing I have cancer is a relief. Are you crazy, Karla? Yep. I was beginning to feel like I was crazy. There was an answer. Just as I heard the whispers of a heavenly Father telling me to get out of unhealthy situations, I wasn’t heeding the signs of physical pain that could have led me down a different path. In a recent message shared with me, these words hit straight to the heart: “God can baffle or bless. He can devastate or delight. He uses all circumstances to show HIS mighty works. He’s the God of life and the God of death.” Statistically and 100% truthfully—we all die. If you’re reading this, it’s a miracle.

All we can do is our best. Balance is important. I’ve never been radical in any way. I know what’s good for me and what’s bad. Still, I’m human. We all are. If a situation is not fixable by love and communication, then how does it benefit you? What are you doing that is helping or hurting you? WE ALL SUFFER. Mentally, physically, and emotionally…so many ways. Can we love anyway? Just the simple words, “I’m thinking of you and love you” can bring more healing to a hurting world than any other treatment available to man. I’m not a tragedy. There are daily tragedies-young people, babies, and catastrophic events that take lives in an instant. To be alive–it’s an ordinary miracle. Don’t take it for granted.

Finley and I watched “Charlotte’s Web” (one of my favorite childhood books). “With the right words, you can change the world,” Charlotte shared. Like Wilbur and Charlotte, we all must accept change and transition.“Why did you do all this for me? he asked. ‘I don’t deserve it. I’ve never done anything for you.’ ‘You have been my friend,’ replied Charlotte. “That in itself is a tremendous thing.”

Living with love, kickstarting kindness, digesting the fruits of the Spirit, giving grace, and yes, even protecting your peace when needed, are all ways we can cure the cancers of conflict. Let’s try chemotherapy of compassion and radiation of respect. How about a prescription for peace and a diet from dread? Let’s fast of fear and make appointments of appreciation. And me? I’ll keep living on love-an ordinary miracle.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”-Phillipians 4:6-7

I have happy tears finishing this post today. For only the second time in 4 months, I’ve had 3 hours of uninterrupted time to sit and write. My eyes are blurry, and my family is on a mission to retrieve the glasses I left at the doctor’s office. Go, team! I’m beyond thankful for my family and friends. Both of my sons and their families are moving closer (one already in Missouri). It’s a miracle! There’s food in my refrigerator, a roof over my head, a puppy in my lap, and love in my heart. The sky is blue, the trees are waving at me, and I have more friends than the 515 tiny spiders that belonged to Charlotte. There have been too many “I’s” in this post. HOW ARE YOU? I miss you all and I miss reading about your lives. Just know how thankful I am to have you on this journey with me. I’ll be forever grateful. For every day is filled with ordinary miracles.

Have faith💚

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136 thoughts on “Ordinary Miracle”

  1. When I saw a note in my email that you had posted a blog my heart sang! I popped over immediately to read your wise words, savor the sound of your voice as I imagine it, and revel in the strength, love, and generosity of your continued journey. I love the way you think and how you read the best in every situation. I love you. I’m honored and humbled to be your friend. It warms my heart that your family is surrounding you and taking gentle care of you. You are perfectly and beautifully made Karla, you are human, and you have blessed everyone you know. To my gift, my friend, I love you so very much. Hugs, C

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    1. C, I love you. I saw a pic of you and your beautiful daughter and I can’t wait to read. There have been so many layers and moments where I’ve just felt “paralyzed” I’m finding words or time. You are in my heart and your comment, “savor the sound of your voice” gave me instant thoughts. I imagine your voice. And all of those who write in our community. Some I’ve heard. Your words are truly humbling. They’re encouraging and comforting. It’s a gift to be your friend, too, C. Love and many hugs. 💛🥰💕❤️

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  2. I was so happy to see you had posted but my heart literally jumped I to my mouth as I read your beautiful written but terrifying (for me) post. I’m glad your family is with you, grateful that you have your faith, may that spark of joy grow and fill out every dark space, bring you peace. I am thinking of you with the greatest of love ❤️

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    1. Kate, I’m so thankful for you. I’ve had thoughts that that tried to spin into an unhealthy place. I accept that I’ll have tears. And I always find laughter in there somewhere. I’m so glad God made me this way. Well, I’m just the clay he’s still molding. Without hope I don’t know how anyone could handle this world, in general. Yet through the dark times it’s when the light is the brightest in my life. I won’t stop moving ahead~even if my steps are small. And when I stop, I’ll celebrate what tiny victories there will be. I don’t see another option that would benefit me or anyone around me. I’m sending love and hugs my friend. Please continue to send me Australia with your words and presence. 💛🥰💕

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    1. Debra, I’m thankful for you and grateful for your encouragement and kind words. Such a sweet message. As you lean on God, which I know you do, may you continue to feel completely loved and adored. Thank you for your openness on your journey. I’m glad we’re in it together. Let’s all move in for a group hug. 💛🙏🏻🥰🤗🤗

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  4. Karla my heart aches with this news. But as is my constant mantra “Lord, your will be done not mine” I also have the boldness to ask for His healing and grace to be poured over you. Consider yourself hugged!!

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    1. Val,…I feel it! You nailed a thought I just shared with a friend this morning. Not everyone will understand this… I felt a relief when my prayer became “letting go”. In the midst of those praying for miracles (don’t get me wrong, I believe!), I shifted my thoughts to Jesus~contemplating and struggling with the reality. He let go, always, to say, “Your will, not mine.” In boldness I have asked for healing, too. I’ve questioned him, which he completely understands, but ultimately, HE knows already. I submit to whatever he desires. Healing? I’ll take it! Because no matter what, I’m going to be healed. I pray he heals the hurt of all. To each person in my life impacted by this~I pray over them. Just because ultimately I’m powerless never means I’m useless! Right?! He’s using you and I know the reasons and the “how’s” will change in our journeys. I’m at peace with that. Love you, Val. 💛🙏🏻🥰

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  6. Americaoncoffee

    A perfect share of faith and wisdom Karla. Love heals and you have the magnitude. Keep your heart open in love. Never let go of God’s goodness and mercy. God is love! Heavenly Healing Hugs to you sweet Karla!

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      1. Americaoncoffee

        How wonderful it is to hear from you! And “Oh” do I know of miracles, they do happen. No matter what our trials, we ask God’s deliverance and trust his decision. More healing hugs, love and blessings to you Karla!💞

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  7. Ginger Salvatore

    Karla, blurry eyes notwithstanding, you wrote an amazing post that will stir the hearts of all who read it. I don’t care what any of us try to dress cancer up with, it stinks! But YOU, dear girl, have broken a lot of the horror/fear that surrounds a diagnosis of cancer into digestible pieces. Cancer is a disease among thousands of diseases.

    I admire your attitude Karla. Every girl needs attitude, and you have it in spades! A good healthy and realistic attitude. You have a strong faith which serves you well. I’m so happy you have such a loving family, especially Finley, as well as a host of loving and caring friends.

    I wish you well with the radiation treatments if you choose to go that route. I’m glad you’re not wasting your energy on fighting, but using your energy to live the best life you can. Do you have any idea what a wonderful role model you are for others?

    I am thinking about you Karla and I care about you. Thank you for letting me share this journey with you. As always, I send my prayers and good wishes.

    Ginger

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    1. Ginger, I’ve read your response 3 times. You affirmed the message I was hoping to deliver. A message of hope, wrapped in nice pieces that I hope just ONE can bite and taste. I’m filled with thankfulness and humbleness for your friendship and support.How one views him or herself is not always the way others view us. I just hope and pray that others will feel a sense of strength, even in bad situations. I care for you too, Ginger. And it’s an honor to be on this journey with you. Equally, I’m praying and sending you blessings. Thank you so very much. 💛😭🥹💕🙏🏻

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    2. “I’m glad you’re not wasting your energy on fighting, but using your energy to live the best life you can. ” Ginger, those are my thoughts exactly. I’ve heard the words “She’s a fighter,” and the world considers that a high compliment, but how sad would it be to waste one’s last days focusing on the fight, all the while missing the joys around us?
      Karla, you’re right, there are times we “fall flat on our faith,” and that’s a good place to be. Because He has gone before us, He has tasted death, embraced it and defeated it. And He has called us to trust Him for peace today and life tomorrow in the extra-ordinary hereafter.
      I’ll see you there.
      Blessings,
      Annie

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      1. Annie, your words bring me comfort. Yes, I’m not “fighting” ~I want to live. It’s true I have a “never give up” spirit. But surrendering doesn’t mean giving up that mindset, it means surrendering to the fact that God has it. The fighting has been done! You nailed it~ “He has tasted death, embraced it and defeated it. And He has called us to trust Him for peace today and life tomorrow in the extra-ordinary hereafter.” I’m so glad I’ll see you there, Annie. 💛

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  8. That song is perfection Karla, it touches our hearts because it is that truth within. God gave us a journey to find that truth of unconditional love within, but to do it takes a very difficult journey. But it is in that journey that much empathy, compassion and love are created…so that we can see that love He has for us. When I lay dying on the floor of my kitchen I was frightfully reaching out for…anything, to live again. But I finally touched a place within me where I knew there was nothing I could do, so I ‘let go’ of this life…and from somewhere deep inside me I asked for God’s forgiveness, not of anything in particular but that I had made mistakes but in doing so I gave it all my best shot. And He then spoke to me and said ‘I am the giver of life’…and as you can imagine I was in such a profound state…so I allowed His words to touch me in a way that I trusted Him in what He said. And after a while I very slowly started to breathe again and ‘lived’ again. From that moment on I no longer hold my disease, my pain or those fears that go with it. He showed me His love. What more could I want. I had spent my life looking for it ‘out there’, but it had always been waiting for me to look within, where He had been quietly waiting for me to see. Yes, we do need to trip and stumble and see our conditional love, so that on the day we do accept us and look within, we will know His love as it touches us. And no I have never been where you are currently at, but I know He has and is with you every step of the way. Big hugs my friend, and a love that He shares with everyone ❤️🙏🏽

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    1. Your words are straight from the heart and soul, Mark. I know you know! When you’ve surrendered everything you are and feel the sting of death, in life, there’s a renewed joy and stance of empathy that you cannot explain to anyone.To those that knew you 10 years ago~you’re not the same. One year ago. Yet, so many want to hang on to what is “safe”…yet, they might be sinking. I’m not sinking,…I’m rising. In my weakness HE is my strength and hope. The worst for my health has been navigating around scheduling, devices, and trying to keep up. I let go of a social media platform that was not serving me well either. I miss nature the most. The cool breezes are just ahead. I can’t wait! Isn’t it awesome to know you’re never alone or that you have nothing to fear? And the best…that you’re loved! Hugs and love mtly friend. From MO to Australia. 💛💕🥰🙏🏻

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      1. Now there is a heart loved Karla, words from someone who has touched that beauty within. When you are touched in that understanding He leaves a strength and beauty that words truly can never explain, just a full heart, a knowing heart that all that is done has a great purpose and we are all achieving that in our own ways. And yes, you are rising to another way, a very beautiful way my friend. May your journey be wrapped in that love to its destination.
        Again, a big hug dear lady, bound in courage, hope, faith…and ever that love 😀❤️🙏🏽

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  11. Oh, Karla, you are so strong in the face of adversity. Your faith and family are your pillars. Very sad to hear that things are progressing in negative ways within you. I will pray that you have continued strength to face each new day as it comes.
    Dwight

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  12. Honest. Forthright. Deeply moving. And yes, Karla, take it to heart – those that love you care. And friendship is indeed a miracle. You are a miraculous friend to many. And we both love you and care. Godspeed, my friend.

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  13. I know words are never enough and whatever words I have aren’t going to be worth much except I think you are well because you are you. You’ve got a passionate grip on your own reality and you feel fulfilled by the closeness of your family — and the turning of the earth. There is so much goodness in that, enough goodness for the world to be lifted. I feel lifted by your words.

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    1. Thank you so much, my friend. As I was completing my devotional/meditation time this morning I whispered, “God, reveal yourself, whatever it takes, through me and to family and friends.” He said undoubtedly “this world will have problems”…BUT HE is with us and will still bless us if we allow. Your thoughtful comment blesses me so much! I hope you and your family are doing well. I’ll not forget meeting you when you all were in your RV and preparing for your home again. 💛💕🙏🏻

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  16. Dear Karla, your writing feels like I’m meeting you for coffee, and this is what you say, and I sit by in awe, inspired by your perspective and love you so much. As you speak, I’m reminded of Proverbs 31:25: “She is clothed with strength and dignity,
    and she laughs without fear of the future.” This post is a gift. Sending big hugs. ❤️, Crystal

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    1. Crystal, when I sat at my computer I had so many thoughts that I had kept in my head and heart for two weeks. I never know how my words might be received. Yet, knowing it’s healing for me as I release them. It’s where I have my true heart to heart and hope just one might relate. And in this community I find many who can. You’re one of those that does and it tears me up that you find it inspiring. I love you so much and feel that way about your words. Could you imagine this community, with the two of us included, all getting together for coffee? To the hostess: “We’re going to need more tables please!” 🥹☕️☕️🥰❤️💛💚💕🙏🏻 thank you thank you Crystal.

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  17. This is by far the most moving post I have read, and something I so needed. Your heart spoke to my heart! I cried for you, and I know you so safe in Jesus’s arms! I know your family is out to find the glasses you left behind. You have quite a gift for sharing the heart of the matter. All I can say is I will pray for you, and pray that your days will be filled with a cup that overflows with love!! As well joy, and those little special moments that make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside with.

    Jesus has you, and I know you know this! Just keep living your life one day at a time for Him. You will be honored for honoring Him! Thank you for such a beautiful share that touched my heart to the very core! God be with you, and yours! God bless you sweet daughter of Christ,
    Lisa 🦋🙏🏻🦋

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    1. I love you, Lisa. Thank you for these inspiring response. I’m so happy it spoke to your heart ❤️. Truly, how does one explain how cancer or any affliction can still be filled with blessings unless you know a higher power? I see suffering in so many ways. And those suffering in silence. I just pray others will find the hope we know. Your journey is an inspiration to me, Lisa. God bless you! Sending hugs and love. 🥰💛🤗🙏🏻🙏🏻

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      1. Amen! May God bless your journey! At least we know God has a retirement plan that is out of this world for us! Hope is hard to come by in this day in age, these are more different times then I have ever lived, so you best believe I am grasping Jesus’s hand with all I have. His will not mine! Have a blessed day filled with that peace that only comes from our loving gracious God! 🦋🙏🏻🥰🌞😘

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  18. Oh Karla! My heart is in my throat as I read your moving, sad, but yet beautiful post. ❤ ❤ You my friend have been so inspiring! I will keep singing "our song" and praying for you, storming the gates of heaven. May God continue to uphold you with his amazing strength and comfort and your family and friends. Friendship defintiely is such a precious, beautiful thing! Charlotte's Web is one of my favorite movies too. ❤ Love you girl, ((((HUGS))))

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    1. “I’ve got the joy, joy, joy, joy down in my heart…🎶🎶 my friend, you’re with me. I pray the name of Jesus over you, too 🎶 I’m feeling comfort, peace, and love. I thought I might find a lot of Charlotte’s Web fans. Love you bunches and smile always when I know the “Joy” you are. 💛🥰🙏🏻

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  19. I remember the first post I read of yours. You inspired me then and now. 💗 The blessings you mentioned in your last paragraph are a reminder to all of us to pay attention to the “ordinary miracles.” Hugs to you, Karla. 💐

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  21. Karla, you have taught me so much about how I should live my life. I consider you a friend even though we have never met in person. You have made the most of this wonderful gift we call life. You understand how special it is and we should make the most of it. You are an example to me and everyone who reads your beautiful writings about how to live with love and kindness for all. I know you will keep on fighting and I will keep praying 🙏. I love you, Karla. 🤗❤️

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    1. My friend, this is humbling. 🥹😭 it’s in all the errors and ups and downs that gave me insight and wisdom. The only credit I can give for any type of inspiration goes completely to God. Through brokenness I prayed for breakthroughs. In surrendering I found the true place of joy. Scott, I don’t care how unkind people can be, …I still have to choose kindness. There were times I wanted revenge. Revenge? God REVEALED the reality of how he SIMPLY wants us to love him and love others. Simply. Hate and bitterness will make one more sick than cancer could cause. I refuse to turn back now. Your friendship and prayers mean so much. I just love you and your beautiful family. If I haven’t told you I want you to know how much I appreciate your service to our country and how you still serve us now. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💛💕

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  22. Good morning, Karla. I replied last night, but somehow lost it and it didn’t post. I am amazed at your God-given grace and strength. I poured over every word that you wrote, I can see God’s hand carrying you through this journey. You courage inspires all who love and care about you. I am so happy your family are near to walk this path and hold your hand. You are in my thoughts and prayers continually. I love you sweet friend ♥️

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    1. I love you too, Pam. I wanted to email you and Butch to see how you were both doing, too. I’m so happy you see God’s strength in me. Pam, I can imagine how the cottage is beginning to feel as Fall approaches. It lifts me thinking about it. I love you! 💛💚🙏🏻

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  24. What a beautifully written and heartfelt post! I am so blessed to have read this today. “Charlotte’s Web’ one of my top three favorite books of all time. I read it every year for 33 years to my third-grade class and I never, ever got tired of it. So many words of wisdom in that children’s book. One of my favorites that gave me hope and comfort during a tough time in my life: “Winter will pass, the days will lengthen, the ice will melt in the pasture pond. The song sparrow will return and sing, the frogs will awake, the warm wind will blow again. All these sights and sounds and smells will be yours to enjoy, Wilbur — this lovely world, these precious days…”

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    1. Thank you so very much for your kind words! 💛I loved reading this book and I especially loved it being read to me! The quote is one of my favorites. What a treasure you must have been to your students. 💛🥰

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  26. atimetoshare.me

    Oh, my sweet child. You are truly an inspiration to me and many others. Your positivity and faith are amazing. I wish I had even a speck of what you are exhibiting through these perilous times for you. I know I’ve been quoting this scripture a lot lately – “Be still and know that I am God.” The words kind of let me off the hook, so to speak, but I realize that we need to surrender completely to God’s will to truly know peace. You’ve been able to do that with such grace, strength and style. He is working all of this out to fit His perfect plans for you as well as me and others. Stay strong. I know the pain you must be experiencing in spite of your faith. Our hearts often ache for the wannabes and the what-ifs, but heaven awaits those who place their complete trust in God. Love you, dear daughter.

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    1. I love you so much, Kathy, a.k.a. Bonus Mom. Your words and faith always encourage me. I pray for you and Paul daily. “Be still and know”…I have this displayed. We all need that stillness with surrender don’t we? I can honestly say that my sad or painful times aren’t lingering ~I don’t know if it’s because acceptance has given me allowance and a higher pain tolerance or if I’m just to full of faith to care(😘🙃🥰). I try not to overthink it now that I understand it better (which the experts don’t so I’m perfectly fine leaving it in the Great Physician’s hands). I don’t dread the pain, but wonder~I’m prepared if it progresses or pops in for a surprise. I’m so blessed to have my family and friends nearby. And those family members, like you, who love and pray from a distance. Sending love and hugs always. 💛🥰🤗

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  29. Living with Grace makes you a beacon for others. I feel the same way as you with my diagnosis of MS. It freed me. It is part of the diagnosis that makes me, me but it does not define me. Your cancer does not define you.

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    1. Pam, you’re precious. I often picture you and I remember you in my prayers. You really are an inspiration to me. “It frees me”. What an amazing revelation. I’m taking your wise words to heart ❤️.

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  30. Karla…
    I wish I were near you to give you a tender squeeze, hold your hand, and just sit in the quiet with you – simply feeling the weight of the prayers I’d lift up in gratitude for meeting my Soul Sister in this cyber-space we share.

    The beauty inside of you, despite being surrounded by illness, continues to shine through. Your post reveals that and it is a living testimony for all of us how, when you finally see yourself as God sees you, you will recognize the talents and abilities you have been blessed with and start operating in the fullness of those gifts. During this short time I have known you it is evident you have lived this reality to its fullest. Thank you for continuing to do so, despite depression or joy, conflict or peace, sickness or health.

    I love you and have not ceased in my prayers for you, may they be used in ways most needed. Hugs & Blessings, dear Sister in Christ.

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    1. Dawn, your words, “when you finally see yourself as God sees you, you will recognize the talents and abilities you have been blessed with and start operating in the fullness of those gifts” touched my heart. I have always wanted others to know how loved they are by God. I read this morning that “If you let your circumstances define the way you see God, you are a prisoner of perspective. Or worse, a prisoner of your past mistakes! But if you let God define the way you see your circumstances, you are a prisoner of hope.” It’s human to want to define our own circumstances isn’t it? It’s pure freedom letting it go and seeing our Creator’s perspective! You are so kind and precious to sit with me, hold my hand, and giggle with me. I love you and appreciate your support and prayers so much. Do you know I found you through your amazing reading to your grand babies? And then found a soul, in you, oozing with the love of God. So encouraging my friend! Hugs and much love, Dawn. 💛💕🙏🏻

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      1. Karla, Thank you for sharing that meditation with me – it was a wink from God that you did, as His presence was felt through your sharing. (You are an angel to be his messenger to me this day delivering a much needed reply from Him.) For it is freedom I am seeking & in need of…
        I did NOT know we met through Oma’s Reading Room! My Spirit aches to absorb myself in that passion of reading to children, but alas those opportunities have been been on pause for quite some time now. (I need a committed video editor first and foremost.🙏🏻) I know the Lord will provide the people I need to piece everything back together…may it be very soon. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Hugs as always to you dear Sister.😘😘

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  32. Sarah McLachan’s song reminds each of us to treasure even the smallest of miracles. They are all around us each and every day. Each reminds us of the goodness of life. Karla, you will always continue to see these ordinary miracles from the grace and peace of God.

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    1. Thank you, Richard. That song always tugs at my heart. I appreciate your prayers and support and your words, “Each reminds us of the goodness of life.” There IS good in the world. Peace and blessings, Richard!

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  34. Great reminders, as always. I really appreciate your words and your outlook. Each day is a gift and this is a reminder to me. You are right – none of us will make it out alive. All we can do is live each day. Love and friendships are so valuable and I appreciate your friendship!

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      1. Thank you! I’m in Argentina at the moment. Got here about a week ago. I’m working to get my blog caught up so hopefully that’ll happen soon! It’s the first time going abroad since March 2020, so it’s been an adjustment.

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  36. Oh, Karla. I came to this post a week late. Like many others, it caught me off guard. And like so many others, I can only repeat that your transparency and palpable love continue to transcend the boundaries of mere blog posts. Maybe that’s why so many if those above express their love for you. Count me among them, dear friend. With my ongoing prayers and gratitude, Mitch.

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    1. Mitch, your words are so precious. Thank you so much. You have been a well of wisdom, laughter, and “common ground” to me. It’s a blessing to have you as a friend. Your prayers are impactful. Love, Karla 💛

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  37. Reblogged this on Mitch Teemley and commented:
    My Featured Blogger this week is Karla (K.L.) Hale of Flannel with Faith. If anyone exemplifies the fact that bloggers can be more than just “blogging friends,” it’s Karla. Over the years I’ve followed her, I’ve come to value her not only as a gifted communicator, but as a true friend, one with a heart full of compassion. Read this post, and then read the comments about it at her blog site, and you’ll see why the word love is used so much. More than that, I’m guessing you’ll feel the same.

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    1. I’m reading this with tears in my eyes, Mitch. I consider you one of my true friends, indeed. Since I began blogging you have always supported me. Your heart and every gift you have just oozes with compassion, common sense, and the best-Christ’s love. I can’t tell you enough how humbled I am to be featured on your blog. God bless you my friend. Love, Karla 💛

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    1. Kellye, thank you for the beautiful response. That’s all I hope for is to give love and grace as God gives me. I enjoyed your post about Zion and all the adventures you and Mike have had so many years! 💛👏🏻🙏🏻

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  39. As the outer shell perishes may the inner spirit be renewed daily with the strength of God’s grace. May you continue in joy for it too is your strength. God knows the number of our days. May each one be filled with the knowledge and nearness of his love. God bless you and yours as he shows himself strong on your behalf.

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  41. kriddy70

    Oh Karlie…I have read this more than once and this particular post will be one that will be read and shared countless times. I am honored to be your twin and you have been my friend. Your faith, strength, knowledge, and endless love of love fuels me. I just cried with joy and with sadness, but the healing sadness..you know what I mean. Reading the replies have overwhelmed me and my heart is bursting.😭❤ what an amazing family of fellow bloggers & writers!!! I wish I could hug them all for loving you and knowing your heart as we do. I love the song so much and this book and movie hold a special place in my heart because of you. You give God all the glory and know that through adversity, that is where his blessings become real. You’ve known that on the best of days, as well. You are a light in the dark, Karla. You persevere by faith. I will be here always; with you, for you, beside you and loving you. ❤️❤ Bunny

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    1. Tears 😭. To my wombmate~your support and fierce love has “settled” into this knowing of one another that I believe has been a miracle in this cancer journey. You understand my heart ❤️. And you’re a witness to how this community and other writers have been a huge support in my life, personally and professionally. I’m so glad this movie and song will forever be in your heart as mine. The bond we share is irreplaceable and as strong as cement. We’ve learned so much about one another. I’m sure this community is hugging you back. You’re a light, too. Don’t forget that. God uses you! I love you forever! Gist, Gista. Mousie 💕👭

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  46. Americaoncoffee

    What an amazing testimony dearest Karla. Please cover yourself with the Most Precious Blood of Jesus, always. You’ve got the right faith and you have our prayers. We Love you with angelic miracles and God’s blessings. -AOC- ♥️💞🩸🩸🩸💞

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  47. Karla, this is beautiful. Please know many of your readers are with you. Reading aloud Charlotte’s Web every year puts much of what you say into the forefront, where it should be. Bless you, and Charlotte.

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