Judging by January, time still flies.
It was the last day of January. My oldest son’s birthday made me marinate in memories-the day of his birth, childhood memories, and all the places he and his family have lived since joining the Air Force. Thoughts of he and his brother, their wives and kids, and our memories kept me warm. Judging by January, my heart is still soft. Tears fell (I’m mushy sometimes). “Am I being selfish because we’re not in the same time zone anymore?” It’s hard to give yourself grace to feel in a world with so much hurt. Judging by January, life still hands the unexpected. It’s February?
Frankly, February seems hard to fathom. Ah, February. The month of love.
From the fires to devastating air tragedies—from world tension to tyrannical tendencies—how does one even find faith or hope? My heart is saddened by these situations. Frankly, I can’t FATHOM the loss in such tragic ways! How are we supposed to react?
I’m not going to put my head in the sand and pretend horrific things don’t happen. But I’m not going to spiral in unsettling circumstances. I will pray daily for those who have lost loved ones. For those closest in my life, in my circle, I will reach out and tell them (& SHOW) I love them.
In the 25 schools, with hundreds of kids, I’ve witnessed new trends (or new normals?). This isn’t a blanket observation about every school or room. Yet, many rooms I’ve experienced have calming centers, chair, or rooms. Without going into detail, one situation was beyond aggressive. Kids yelling at authority, ignoring, and having (what other teachers call) “breakdowns.” I’ve been there. I’ve been at the end-of-my-rope. Depression, loss of self-worth, and feelings of abandonment. Life stages and circumstances can grow you or grind at you. There are plenty of people that might tell you what you’re doing wrong. Yet, do you feel HEARD? Do you feel you BELONG? Rather than trying to “fix” others, why not just …listen? Teachers are scrambling trying to control behaviors and teach standards. What if teamwork, cooperation, and kindness were standards? Working together as a team despite differences? One school has the kids sit in rows, another school the kids are dancing on cafeteria tables working in groups. Is either right or wrong? Twenty-five schools, leaders, and thousands of kids make up the largest district in Missouri. Each school has their own culture, environment, and norms. It didn’t take me long to even notice dress trends in different schools. All in one city. One city in a county. One county in a state. One state in a country. One country in the world. I’m just one out of 8 billion. So how should I react?
“We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19 (ESV)
“God cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there. There is no such thing.” –C.S Lewis
“Spread love wherever you go. Let no one ever come without leaving happier.”
Mother Teresa
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” –Franklin D. Roosevelt
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” A.A. Milne
“But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and reward will be great, and you will sons of the Most High, for his is kind to the ungrateful and the evil.” Luke 6:35
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” –Robert Frost
“True humility is not thinking less of yourself. It’s thinking of yourself less.”
C.S. Lewis
“For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12:10
Keep the faith 💚
Good News to Choose!
TODAY is my amazing Dad’s birthday! Happy birthday, Dad! To know him is to love and respect him. His heart might be weak, but his inner strength remains. I’m blessed to celebrate another year with him. There’s been so much sickness and judging by January (;-), I wasn’t immune to an upper respiratory infection. My recovery has required medication and inhalers. I’m moving in the right direction. My flight to D.C. and scans/bloodwork/dr’s visits at the National Cancer Institute is scheduled for early March. My bone pain management plan has been established. Life is evolving and I continue to grow. As I’ve “expanded”, my world has also “shrunk”. I’m sticking to my Year Makeover goals. God is still working miracles! There’s freedom in choosing to control only what you can control. It’s old wisdom to put first things first. Be careful out there. There’s a lot of noise, traffic, and hate. Remember that you are loved. YOU are HIS BELOVED. You don’t have to worry about being polished or popular. Don’t stress over others’ opinions or oppositions. If you’re being chased by something that isn’t Christ-minded or life-giving, stop running and stand your ground. Allow your feet to be firmly planted in the root of truth (CHRIST!) and goodness. It can be done without waging war. Don’t compromise your values or beliefs–you’ll end up in confusion or chaos.
Frankly, February, I’m fallible, but I won’t fold. I don’t have to “fit”. They’ll be football, family, and faithful gatherings- failures, fact-checking, and fatigue. I’ll celebrate the fact you’re short like me!
Faith? Life might try to dissolve mine, but it’s fixed.
It’s not fluid or faded…
frankly, my faith won’t falter.
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Oh Karla-thank you! ❤️ “Rather than trying to “fix” others, why not just …listen?” Yes! So much love and wisdom in your words. Happy Birthday to your Dad! 😊
Thank you, sweet sister. I want to listen to…hear and understand. And learn. It’s important to me. I thought of you for many reasons this morning with my Dad. My heart and prayers were with you. THANK YOU for supporting my joy and being such a wonderful friend. ❣️🙏🏼❣️
I’m glad you’re getting better.
Who knows what teaching method is best? I never liked school much, but there were a few teachers that I did enjoy, and who helped ease the boredom and stress of school. I think you would have been one of them.
I think the best way to learn is through self-education. The best a teacher can do is guide and clarify, for those who really want to learn. But most of the work has to be done by the student.
And yes, stand your ground when faced with those who would spread their pain to others. By refusing to cooperate, maybe they’ll be motivated to face their pain themselves, and do a little self-learning about it.
Thank you, Tippy! I always enjoy your words and wisdom, my friend. “Self-education”. Guide, clarify–it does come from the student. Self-entertainment–that seems to be the norm.
I appreciate you!
Happy Birthday to your Dad! 🎂 God bless you today, Karla! 🙏💕🐾
Thank you, dear Cindy! I will share this birthday wish when I see him! God bless you and Henry, too! I appreciate you so much. ❤️🐾🙏
“What if teamwork, cooperation, and kindness were standards? “
Amen, sister! Sadly, these don’t show up on any state academic test. Yet, they are the “soft skills” so many in the business world say today’s young people are missing.
We need to teach the whole student; standards are great goals, but only when supported by sound ethics and moral excellence.
I’m encouraged by your hope and faith, despite the ups and downs of your journey.
David, this is like preaching to the choir with your depth and experience! You know, you know, you know! I think of you when I’m at schools. My last experience the principal JOINED me in class (just like you would do). We had this conversation. “Let’s help teach self-regulate?” When you think you’ve seen it all. The flip side—the one who holds it all in and it comes out in anger years later. The humanness of it all!
“Soft skills”. Remember when we started teaching Kagan’s Cooperative Learning in the 90’s? Stephen Covey’s leadership for kids? Professional Learning Communities? Positive Behavior Support? All the acronyms, the labels, the standards, the curriculum. Gosh, David. Give me a one-room schoolhouse on the prairie with a river and trails. And a bunch of kids. Here I go…down the rabbit hole.
“We need to teach the whole student;standards are great goals, but only when supported by sound ethics and moral excellence.” Amen! I’ll throw a wrench in it—let’s not teach any academics at Kindergarten except through reading TO them and allow them to play, cooperate, investigate. The kids that are coming to school reading will read despite the teachers. We expect them to do so much for their ages; yet, on the flip side, we wonder why they have breakdowns when it all becomes so frustrating and we’re not teaching them where they are—or to the “whole” child. Amen, brother!
If a child feels loved and a sense of belonging—and SAFE (which is my number one job)—then I feel I’ve helped out those tired teachers. There have been SO MANY wonderful experiences. I pray that every child will feel like he or she…belongs. Worthy. Loved. Accepted. Just like you do, David. I’d love to work under your leadership, my friend.
It’s a blessing that you’re encouraged with my hope and faith. I will forever be amazed at God’s miraculous ways! God bless you, my friend. Keep on keeping on. You’re doing mighty good things!
“What if teamwork, cooperation, and kindness were standards?”
Imagine if grownups – specifically elected officials in our state and national government bodies emulated this for our children to see.
Wonderful thoughts and hopes, Karla! I hope you continue to feel better ! No feverish February for you my friend! (see I can do it too!!)
Happy birthday to your dear dad!! Treasure every day with him. Sending you much love!
Aw, Erika, my son and daughter-in-law sent a few hiking pics and a mountain pic in Idaho ~ you were on my mind wondering how the weather and hiking might be right now.
Like you, I always imagine (ok, pray, wish, and hope) our leaders could do show the same.
Thank you for being you. I appreciate your kindness and friendship!
Here’s to continued hope and faith! Erika, you emulate earnest and eloquent! ❤️🥰🤭♥️♥️♥️🙏🏻 I love you, sister.
This was from this past Saturday before the big storm blew in with sub zero temps and 12 inches of snow!! https://photos.app.goo.gl/K9YXM8CsTLNAKF16A
Oh thank you!!!! sub zero and 12 inches of snow. WOW!
Oh, Erika—stunning! Your precious pup and that stance in the snow. THANK YOU!🐾🐾💞
Oh, this one hit every place within me, dear Karla. The Weltschmerz and the hope. Our hope — that strange combination of “the thing with feathers” and the Solid Rock– these words of yours truly and Truthfully express. Thank you — honesty and hope in equal parts keep us walking the Narrow Way. Shalom and Gratitude, Blessings and Health — Jane
Jane, The Weltschmerz and the hope. I was just sharing with a friend about the juxtaposition of the bitter and sweet, tears and the “terrific”—yes, “The thing with feathers” and the solid rock—how beautiful!
It touches my heart and soul that you understand the depth and the breadth. Jane, I try to stay real, my friend. I know you do too. I admire you for that. Blessings and good health to you and yours, precious friend. I’m grateful for you. ❤️
That’s exactly what I think too about all this crazyness around us. I cannot ignore it since we need to learn how to deal with it but we must not let us draw down to that low energy. In these times a strong positive energy is even more important and needed. Thank you for being a beacon, Karla, and Happy Birthday to your Dad!
I am sorry that you caught an infection. I hope you are feeling much better and are able to continue your scheduled program. As I said, you are a beacon, maybe that is why you always stand up one more time than fall.
💖Much love, dear Karla, and the best of health for you, my dear friend 💖
Sweet Erika, I love our connection at our places today. From your beautiful poem to the words you’ve written me—thank you, dear friend.
I had a feeling many would understand this reaction.
Thank you for your sweet words about my health. Everyone has something. It reminded me that I’m not immune to the “normal” stuff. It actually felt “normal” (whatever that is!). It surprised me at how long it stayed. It’s still “there”. A virus, they say. Truly, it’s these health challenges that are building my spiritual strength. From feeling like I can’t get any worse? To….”Thank you, God, I can breathe!” The bone pain, viruses, daily grind…gosh, Erika. WE ALL are battling in this crazy world! It gives me empathy. I see people suffer and my “I’m sorry” is from the bottom of my heart and soul. I GET IT!
I do pray I keep getting up. Mark my words, Erika, the day my body says, “I can’t get up”, my soul will still be standing! I’m sending love, hugs, and prayers for you, your health, and your entire family. ❤️
My dear Karla, talk about connection; I just realized that whatever you write, awakens emotions and feelings in me that confirm every word with the deepest understanding. It is like reminding me of something I forgot but know. I don’t know where it comes from and what it may mean, but actually it doesn’t matter. However, it might explain the soul-connection we feel.
Again, I think we met before and meet here and now for again whatever reason. I am simply thankful to my core and will send you the best and most loving vibes that you will keep standing up for a long while – once because you are a such a pure, beautiful and loving soul of which we need many more on this planet and second because you have a message to deliver that helps and strengthens many others to keep standing up every day.
Much love, dear friend 💖
How beautiful, dear friend, thank you***TEARS***** MUCH LOVE, Erika.😪❣️❣️❣️❣️
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Talk about ENCOURAGING!!! Your words direct me to think on what is “true, noble, right,pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and praiseworthy.” Thank you for sharing your gift with words. 💚💚💚
Thank you, my dear sister. You’re so precious and kind. I love that verse so much, Kim. I think of those words so much!
Every time I go “through the fire” :-), God’s goodness has left me even more “clarified”! I can praise even more for all the ups and downs, tears and joy—the juxtaposition of the happy and hurt—it’s all part of this human experience. It’s my blessing to share. It touches my heart that you find it encouraging! Much love always! 💚
When life gets crazy, I can always count on my fingers and toes. Sorry, had to share a joke.
But in all seriousness, the world does seem crazy with everything going on. It seems like we are moving at a faster pace to the end time.
Happy Birthday to your dad. Praying for you little sister.
Oh, brother, Matt, that’s a good giggle! It’s true. Never apologize for sharing a joke! That’s what this big table is for—pull up a seat and let’s share!
It was if I looked up from saying goodbye at Christmas to,….February? And so many who have suffered must feel like life has stopped.
I understand your thought on the fast pace to the end. We’re all in a hurry and this time here is a blip compared to the glory waiting. Everywhere I go I’m too slow, lol. Yet, time moves fast.
Thank you for the bday wishes—I’ll share them with him. Your prayers lift me—I pray for you, too!
I had no idea that your dad’s birthday was in February. Paul’s would’ve been on the 11th of February. He would’ve been 83. My heart is so happy for him to be with our Savior in heaven, free from all the craziness of this world – the pain and suffering – the peace which passes all understanding. I often wonder how patient our God can be, even when his creation is undergoing chaos, confusion and sin. Thinking of Noah and the length of time the people had to repent before God sent his destructive rains. We have his promise that he will never destroy the world in this way, but many of the signs are evident and lead us to believe that the end is coming soon. In my post today, I talk about being still and knowing that God is in control. There is nothing more reassuring than that truth. Our worry and despair will not make things better. Waiting on the Lord is the only way to calm the heart. Love you dear Karla.
Oh, Mama K. I knew Paul and Dad’s birthdays were close~same birth year, too. That’s why you both remind me so much of them.
You are such an inspiration to me.
Your faith is what is keeping your heart and spirit going. You are living it out. I know the hurt and grief and you have every right for all of it. To feel it all. You choose to be happy he’s not suffering. You walk the walk and live it out. I wanna have faith like that.
Your wisdom is priceless! “Our worry and despair will not make things better.” Amen! Let’s say it louder for the people in the back ~🥰
I could find something every hour to worry about. Life keeps handed it out. But I have a choice. Even more? The power of Christ is within us! So many don’t use this power~thinking it gets “zapped” from somewhere in the sky? Nope! With reconciliation and restoration~ communion~ the power is in us. I’m not going to read the truths in the Bible, take the messages HE gives me through nature and experiences and then sit and say, “Well, that was good for that 30 minutes!” It’s a 24/7, 7 days a week full time God-provided super duper spirit power (oh boy, that was elementary~ but true!).
I love you, Mama K. Thank you for being a testimony of faith and supporting my journey!
A friend on FB posted a meme, “Goodbye January. You were a long year, but we made it.” I agree with your stance. To allow circumstances beyond our control and out of the reach of our hands to push us off balance? IMO that’s just what “they” are working toward. OK, so three weeks ago I was WAY off balance (haha) and so a walker for another three weeks, probably, but. Neither the bad guys nor the good guys always win and we’re ALWAYS in uncharted water except for our own integrity. I miss my dogs, my Refuge, and a good night’s sleep. Those are the three things I’m working toward and I understand them in the midst of the maelstrom. I watched this storm form, and, like most storms, I couldn’t stop it. We have to be like Finn. Steady though down a leg, and Brave and Good.
MAK~ the “midst of the maelstrom” ❤️ you know well. Thank you for being such a supporting friend and source of joy to us.
I didn’t share this with you earlier~ right before you fell I had written something I called “Snow Stance” (instead of chance lol). It was with my pics of my first snow walk. It was all about sleeping balance and our “stance”~ even in snow or other foreseen circumstances. I changed it after some struggles and I rewrote portions of my Life Sentence post (using the very pic I had chosen for “stance”). Your fall and that post, my thoughts and life~ they were aligned with yours down Hwy 160.
You’ve taught me so much, MAK. You keep teaching me; even when you’re in the middle of storms. You, Bear, and Teddy, the Refuge…what you know and understand. Those are the good things of life. “Neither the bad guys nor the good guys always win and we’re ALWAYS in uncharted water except for our own integrity.” Powerful and poignant!
It’s hard to be human.
Dogs? Yes, let’s be like Finn. Steady on loss of limb functioning and ready for storms ( now that’s like Bear, too). You’re Brave and Good too, MAK. We love you, dearly! 🐾♥️
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trying to maintain calm and equanimity has been a challenge lately but Jesus ha been my stalwart, teaching me not to get drawn in to the storms of others; my daughter is over now and that is a blessing
; still so much sickness to pray for including R who is stricken with Ramsay Hunt syndrome. Happy birthday to your son; glad dad is still ‘hanging in there’; and good health to you, Karla: you are in my prayers. Stay well :).
Thank you, dear friend. I’m so happy your daughter is there~ give her my regards. I’m still praying for R, John. And you, too!
Thank you for your prayers and support. Jesus ~your stalwart! Teaching us not to get drawn into the storms of others~ powerful stuff, wise friend. I appreciate you. Many blessings and prayers. 🙏🏻🥰
Happy birthday to your Dad! Always praying for you my friend. Time passes so quickly, spring will be here while I am not looking.
Much love and prayers, Karla ❤️🙏🏻
Pam, thank you, sweet friend! I will share the wishes with him. I hope you’re able to “see” me at your place. I feel your prayers and love. It gives me joy to connect with you. My prayers for all of you continue. You’re family, Pam. I love you so much. 🙏🏼💞💞
happy birthday to dad Karla. Your faith won’t falter because the object of your faith is really really big, strong and everlasting. Not to mention he won’t let you go…and His love is….bigger than all the the great love stories of February’s put together.
That’s beautiful, my dear friend. Thank you, Gary. I’ll share the birthday wishes to my Dad tomorrow. Your last sentence–wow. “…bigger than all the great love stories of February’s put together.” I miss you, my friend. I pray for you and the girls daily–and hoping you’re all holding up ok in this frigid and busy season.
Haha, I love it. If faith was a mountain you have the best view in the world Karla 🤣
It has been a a crazy start this year, asking of us so much. But the answers, they too speak loudly kind lady. I find that hearts are a powerful thing, hence those billions of ways around the world to find that love within us. He is that good at bringing together so much. Some a delight, some painful, but all an understanding of that love that He is ❤️
A very happy birthday to your son, your dad (who I hope is going well), and a wise understanding of those many in schools who test out so many different ways kind lady. From the many I see and ‘feel’ there is just a confusion of that love they seek so strongly. Oh, it will come out in so many ways, the hate, the anger and so on…but its core is the corruption in the way it was given. Heal that and the world will sing. But, it is a journey to find us, dare to go beyond ourselves and our fears and understand a very profound purpose in every step we take. And for that, great teachers like yourself are unscrambling that very thing.
I can imagine that heart of yours at the front of the classroom just being yourself kind lady. I can tell from here that you attract them like honey to a bee your loving energy is so strong…even in your current path. If you sang in a class the class would stop, in fact I think the school would. Love has this incredible tenacity to be heard, even if there are covered ears, and you share it well.
If I could sneak you out on a battlefield you would do the same there. You would end the profit makers in an instant, silence the anger, unlet those many blocked tears, and open those walled hearts forever…as you have so expertly done in your journey, and only then give that love truthfully. Love can only be given by understanding it, only then can its wisdom be heard. And you speak it well my friend, your feet are indeed planted firmly in His truth 🤗🥰😀🐾🦓🎶🕊️❤️🙏
Oh, Mark! Oh my goodness!!! I went from smiling, giggling, a few tears, to cackling at the battlefield scene. But I know your precious heart and for you to say these things just melts mine. I think you have WAY more confidence in me than what I could deliver. Although I’ll deliver a song to the kids (and I have at school before). Now about that battlefield…
You understand this one, counselor–sometimes I do wonder why I didn’t go into counseling. Some might say with my “track record” I might not be good. lol. Truthfully, it’s all the experiences that gives…empathy, sympathy, and heart of understanding. YOU’VE been there. YOU KNOW! It’s all about the heart.
Today at school I pivoted my position on something. I let my heart take FULL control. When I evaluated the situation later, I thought, “Yep, the brain would’ve lost on that one!” There are so many positive things going on. The trends I observe are really being felt by the adults, too. I can remember specific moments in my life where the anxiety and events can’t help but “bleed” into the young people around you. Sadly, even my kids. We’re all human. Now, if we can just treat one another with this humankindness. There is evil, too. There are situations where “love” won’t stop a bullet or de-escalate someone in their wrong mind. BUT what if we started when that someONE was tiny? So if I’m in a classroom now I can start with just…them. Maybe ONE child will go home and say, “She heard me. She SAW me. And I think she loves us!” Wow. Love isn’t easy–but like you said, it has incredible tenacity to be heard.
You say it, write it, share it, and wear it well, dear Mark. It always warms my heart to see you. You’re a constant source of encouragement to me!! You’re a cheerleader from WAYYYY under! WOW! Finn and I send our love and hugs to you, my friend. 🎶🤗❣️🐾🐾🥰💚🙏🏼🙏🏼
Haha, oh yes Karla, let the heart speak. Be it a song or you just showing those young one’s what is possible, what love there is, that it heals like no other. If they only get it one way, then the street stays a one way street. You dare to show them the highway of love, then they will have the courage to take whatever direction their heart desires.
When they are young is indeed when they are absorbing it all, the good and the bad. The hardest part of it all is that they look up to those they love and hold dear, as anyone would…but the pain of that adult is unintentionally passed onto that child (along with the good). And that is when I thought I could heal the world through those children at such a young age, when it mattered. And Spirit said, give what you are, when you are, how you are…but…could you imagine being between a parent and their child telling them to do this or that. And as you said, when a child’s eyes light up because you did ‘hear them’, you ‘know’ that love is planted my friend.
Yes we can make a difference, a big difference…but life and love need to speak, and as hard as it can be to watch something that hard, it is giving them what they need, even if you weep to watch it happen sometimes. But love will stop a bullet…shoot I’ve seen it move mountains kind lady 🤣
And we must have stumbles, they guide us. But to be shown another way brings wisdom, and you have love’s wisdom in spades. All you have spoken like a trooper kind lady. God’s trooper 🤗
Haha, a cheerleader. Wait till I tell my mom that one 🤗🤣 But I thank you kind lady. I’ll see if I can find a pom, pom somewhere to go with it 😂 But your words are so appreciated and loved , thank you 🥰
Big hugs to you and that other little trooper Finn, from across the big blue. And that love returned in kind Karla 🤗🐾🦓🎶🕊️❤️🙏
Happy birthday to your precious dad who raised an amazing daughter! ❤️ I’m so glad you could celebrate with him. Happy birthday to your son too and (((hugs))) from one mama’s heart to another!
You made so many great points once again. Thank you for being a sane voice in the midst of craziness in the world! You give my heart, hope ❤️ and make me smile!! Love you, dear friend! ❤️❤️❤️
C, my dear sweet friend, thank you so much. I will share these birthday wishes at our gathering tomorrow. You’re so precious!
I’m so happy we’re “here” together. I’m glad we can be “sane” together (gosh, I like our crazy together, too). Let’s stay grounded in God’s truth and keep trying to bring love and laughter to this crazy world, my friend. I love you! 🥰💞💞❣️🤗🎶🎶
Yes! Can’t have too much love and laughter! I like “our crazy” too 😂
Love you. dear friend! 💛🩷
You are such a blessing to me. Your words have helped me so much. I had a bad night at church. I disagreed with what I heard, and I made it known. I was praying and I know the Lord said He would make it work for my good. Not without tears. I love these people a lot and tonight I was not received. I was with my 2 spiritual children who are always with me. But when I read what you wrote about standing your ground, I Knew it was good with the Lord. I just want to be sure that I was to speak up.
Your whole post says so much about how Satan has affected the children, and the teachers really don’t know what to do. That is what happens when you take God out of the schools. How can you fix that. That is what was wrong with my Church. They wonder why they are not happy like they were when the first got saved. I had to say I am happier than I have ever been, but I was the only one. Where do I go from here? I don’t want to go back but I know I have to. Teach me to love Like you Jesus! Thank you, Sweet Karla, you are so easy to love!!! ❤️🌹🎶🕊️😘
Oh, Mama Wenda, I’m sorry for your experience. I understand. I’ve been in a similar position before.
I have found that standing my ground has also meant for me to stand in silence. This is not a judgement for you speaking out–it’s about ME. My words have fallen on deaf ears in the past (when I did speak out) and I realize that my complaints have to be taken first to Christ. It’s so hard in the “heat of the moment”. I’m not a judge. Gosh, I’ve been there! I get it!
It hasn’t kept me out of tough conversations or disagreements. I’m not a good example on this, Mama, because I have found that I don’t “fit” in some churches. I’ve been to many. The “standing my ground” has put me at the nature center standing on Earth’s solid ground praising God where there isn’t a “show” or disagreements or, for lack of a better description–no SPIRIT. Your heart is so good. I pray that however it is resolved, you feel loved. To my core, I believe we all have a God-sized space in us. Some of us have found it, know it, and believe it. Our creation is searching for our…CREATOR. We were wired for connection and love. Now, humans are just…wired. lol. And now, wireless. lol. If we take the soul and heart out of learning, then we will continue to just “manufacture” to cross off expectations that don’t necessarily lead to a kinder community. It’s about “production”. Sadly, “Production” covers a huge area of humanity. Keep on keeping on and never lose heart, Mama Wenda. You know the depths of despair and loss. AND you know Christ in a way that many won’t. You’re grounded and rooted. I want to be more like Jesus, too. Thank you for being your authentic and beautiful self. I love you so much! ❣️💞💚🥰🎶
You are so right. I have been there myself a couple of times. This time I started out right but I do think I said too much. But i know He already knew what I was going to do and will work it for my good. I have been praying for this Church for years and years. I learn something new every time I speak up for Him. I do know about silence. I have bit my tongue a lot. This time they said “well I am sure we all feel this way.” I had to say that I did not. And that part was right.
Today He is telling me that He will make it work for my good and I am having a hard time with it.
The last time this happened the two people who came against me left the Church over another matter. I still cannot believe they are gone. So, I will wait and see what He will do.
You have so much wisdom and know how to use it. I thank the Lord for you sweet Karla. Oh how I wish I could wipe all your pain away, but I don’t know what you need like the Lord does and He loves you so much more! Good Night sweet baby doll!! 🕊️🌹😘🎶❤️
You are so precious. Thank you for your sweet words. I feel your faith and hear you. “Wait and see.” Your Good and HIS glory. Amen.
I’m thankful for you, too, sweet Mama Wenda. May this week be blessed and filled with righteous relief! ❤️🙏
Hallelujah! I receive it! Righteous Relief! Sounds like a poem! I was thinking about how long I had to spend at home alone with Jesus before He let me go to a Church of His choosing! He was doing a lot of healing in my heart. Hang in there Karla. He has a special plan for you and that takes time! But it is so well worth the waiting! I love you “oodles and noodles! ” You have such great Words!!! 💯‼️🔜☑️🔛⛔🆘🆓1️⃣🆕🆙❤️💕💘💝💖
❣️❣️🤗🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🥰🥰🥰 awwwwww Thank you, Mama Wenda. I know that healing.
I know that you do! 🎶💖🤗🌟💝💘
TIME NEVER STOPS FLOATING FORWARD……NICE ONE.
Thank you, my friend!
You are welcome
Your post gives hope and inspires us to just be the best we can. Bravo my dear friend
Thank you, dear Sadje. You’re such an encouragement and sweet friend!
As are you dear friend. Thanks 💞💞💞
Amen, amen, amen! We live in a fallen world. You mentioned fires, air tragedy, and tyranny (I mentioned those things this week too!), and I can’t help but make comparisons. We look forward to a city lit by God Himself, we will meet Him in the air, and worship Him forever. Fire, air, and authority, all in their perfect state. Can’t wait until God restores His creation (that includes us!) to perfection.
Dear Mama M–thank you, sweet friend for being a voice for God and goodness!
It doesn’t surprise me that our thoughts and words are aligned. I can’t wait to go visit your place!
“Fire, air, and authority, all in their perfect state.”
Heaven on Earth.
You’re a light on the hill, dear sister. Thank you for being YOU. 🤗🙏🏼💚💚
Happy February to you, my friend Karla.
Aw, thank you, dear friend. I appreciate you so much, Mark!
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This was so timely, because I’ve been thinking the same thing lately. So much of our troubles seem to come from our desire to control other people and their actions rather than simply to listen to them and learn why they think and behave the way they do. The way we’re doing things, “my way or the highway, and get rid of all dissenters” is just fueling the hate. If we can make respect, compromise, goodness, community, etc. the standard we strive for and ignore all the little stuff, I do believe we can move forward as a nation. In the meantime, I also love your advice about how to cope during these crazy times: remember whose we are, that God loves us, and that God expects us to love others. Thank you for this post!
Ann, thank you, my friend. I always appreciate your thoughts, wisdom, and encouragement. I’ve read your response twice. Amen.
Ann, it’s been 7 years since I’ve been on some social media. I use one for the kids/grands. I know I miss out with some family and friends, but even 7 years ago, I couldn’t “stomach” the dissent, hate, and overall, rudeness.
I’m not right. I’m just human. My truth is what I believe and live. But to someone else, their truth might be different. I’ll not participate in a hate-filled conversation. But I’m always curious and want to truly hear and know someone.
I’m so happy we’re connected here. That we can have such wonderful dialogue with respect and goodness.
Thank you for bringing so much to the “table”–you’re a light! Love, Karla
Rather than trying to fix,
Why not just listen.
Such wise words Karla.
Our world is suffering from a deluge of artificial connection and a loss of authentic connection. We are not listening to ourselves, our hearts, our spiritual guidance.
And in turn we are not listening to others or they to us. There is so much information that it is forming walls between people and walls inside people.
Too much.
Too loud.
Beautiful post my friend ❤️
Kate, I’m so happy to “see” you. Thank you for your kindness, encouragement, and wise words, too. ❣️
“Artificial vs authentic” ….not listening to ourselves, our hearts….information forming walls. TOO MUCH TOO LOUD. Why can’t Love be the loudest?
Finding you so many years ago was a gift-your breadth and depth of words in your poetry was a window to your old and deep soul. And nature, of course.
Just in the time I’ve known you, we’ve experienced so many world trials, traumas, and tragedies that have pivoted positions and waged wars (not in just expected countries, but in families, too).
I’m a positive person. I do see that issues that have been buried are coming to the surface. Everything is “out” there. It’s like a double-edged sword, Kate. We can bury all the feelings and everyone hide and stay to themselves. OR we learn to communicate in respectful manners and agree to disagree.
It’s so ironic. I’m sure these topics have been discussed in many places in the history of civilization; the tools were different, but not the messiness of humans.
I’m rambling, dear friend. I feel like our WP family is a big table–and rather than say, “Hey, Kate, pass the potatoes,” and let’s all eat in silence or anger, here, we can all have beautiful and “rich” dialogue. It makes our dinner parties so fun and I miss them when I’m not here.
It’s a joy to call you friend, Kate. I pray you are well and hanging in there with all you do.
Thank you for being you. 💞
I love the conversation around your dinner table Karla. And I always enjoy your posts as an invitation to partake in your particular brand of sweetness and wisdom, and I come away feeling better for it. Always. ❤️
How kind, Kate. Thank you. ❣️❣️❣️😪
Love your post’s title and the messages within, of course. It is so hard when kiddos are far, isn’t it. 💕 I admire you for many reasons, including the inspirational gifts of love you share with children. A treasure in this often-hectic world. Thank you, dear Karla and best to you. 🌼🕊️
Thank you, precious Michele. It means so much you stopped by to offer your love and support! You understand about the kids being away. You’re so kind and gracious–I admire you too, Michele. I’m proud of how you’re living your life traveling and soaking in all of the beauty in its every form. It’s my blessing to be here and share a little tiny slice from this area. 💞💚🤗
Thank you for the heartwarming response – that is just you! 🤗💕 So grateful to know you! 🌞
You’re welcome, precious friend. Likewise! ❤️🥰💕🤗
Wait… what? You’re telling me it is FEBRUARY already??? How is that even possible?
Thanks for the uplifting message and the reminder to hold on tight to the root of Life and Faith itself… JESUS! It does seem as if the past month has been one assault after another, doesn’t it? As tempting as it is to bury our heads and hide, we can’t and we shouldn’t. All the best to you as you continue on your cancer journey. God’s got this! And happy birthday to your daddy, too!
Hi, Russell! Happy February (YES, it is the 9th day already? ). Thank you for being here and a voice for faith, common sense, and wisdom, my friend.
Are you watching the Super Bowl right now? WOW! Those Eagles are sweeping it!
Knowing your years in K.C….
I pray you are doing well. Russell, have you written an article recently? It seems my last couple of comments may not have gone through. I’ll stop by your place this week.
God bless you both! I pray you are doing well. Through each hour, some tougher than others, I give it to God. I can’t imagine trying to do life without Him, my friend. Thank you for all the blessings! God bless you!!
Frankly, February is fabulous when it’s filled with faith! You are a Flannel with Faith warrior and how wonderful it is to hear your messages of faith, Karla. Keep pressing on, my friend!
Oh, Dora. It’s always so good to see you, sweet friend. I’m sorry I’ve lost touch with you. How are you?
You are an example of faith, my friend. Thank you for being a support, prayer warrior, and precious sister of faith! Much love! Let’s keep pressing on together! I appreciate you! ❤️🙏
Hope you are feeling much better. Happy birthday to your Dad.
In other countries they teach meditation, self esteem, kindness, inner happiness, cooperation. I tried teaching in public schools and it was too disheartening to me. Bless your heart for subbing, which is even more challenging.
Take care, love, katelon
Hello, sweet Katelon. How are you, my friend? Yes, my upper respiratory is much better. Thank you for the birthday wishes for my Dad, too. You’re so kind.
I enjoy subbing—even with its challenges. There is a program called “Positive Behavior Support” which emphasizes positive reinforcement, praise, and helping students in “choice” —and with rewards. I know teachers who use meditation and on Friday, during our class meeting, the teacher had “breathing” time in which the kids take deep breaths. We also had a positive thought for the day we discussed. I do feel that many teachers, on their own, teach all of those things you mentioned.
THANK YOU for all you did in trying to teach. I do see many becoming disheartened. I visited with someone on Friday that says her year is so tough. Her hardest in 13 years. She’s tired. And positive. I’ll keep doing what I can to just help…one? Even in the tough situations, I learn as much from the kids as I hope they do from me. I noticed on Friday when we had a discussion about “bias” (they had an assessment) we spent time discussing it, providing examples, etc…when it came time for them to show what they know (and the teacher had completed a whole unit and I was just reviewing) many kids became very upset, felt defeated before we started, and a few just didn’t want to “do it”. There were …4 questions only. This was 4th grade. It took 20 minutes to encourage them and I KEPT encouraging about 10 of them (even sitting with a few just to be a close moral support). They wanted me to repeat and repeat. We live in a very distracted world, Katelon.
Take care, my friend. Love and blessings!
You are so right about just listening instead of trying to fix things. This is true for children as well as adults. Karla, there is a wonderful picture book, The Rabbit Listened, by Cori Doerrfeld. It’s perfect to read to children and validates listening. Hugs to you! 💕
Aww, thank you, Jennie. I always love your wisdom and insight. I will check that book out! I’ll think of you and the kids, and Zeb and Gloria, every day. I can’t wait to share HERE all about their adventures.
Jennie, thank you for being such an encouragement. Many hugs to you! ❤️
It’s one of the best books, and you know I’m picky. Every day Zeb gets carried around. He is so loved! When you get the journal, you’ll be thrilled to read about their weekend adventures. I’m posting one next week. The big party ‘send off’ should be the first week in March. Gloria might be nervous since she’s never traveled before, but Zeb has been her faithful companion. He’ll be by her side.💕 Mega hugs to you, Karla!
Oh, I can’t wait to read all about it! A big send off too? WOW! Jennie, how awesome! Gloria will be a bit nervous, but Zeb will be with her and Finn and I will take amazing care. She’ll be a seasoned traveler before you know it! AWW. I love our hugs! ❤️🤗
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Dear KL, so much of your post resonates. I don’t even know where to start…then reading through the responses…you have gifts of connecting, relating, uplifting, and unconditional love. Happy Belated Birthdays to Oldest Son and Dad! I pray for your health, bones, and pain, that all your needs be met, for your March trip to NCI and the emotions involved, for your mom and dad and twin sis and your boys and their families, for good things in your days and miracles beyond belief. I love you, my chosen sister! Big Hugs! Little Sips! Deep breaths! 😘❤️❣️
Awww, C. I’m sipping our special tea right now, so encouraged and blessed by you. You know me. You “see” and understand it all. I feel humbled and blessed that you will be praying for these specifics things. For you to take time in your busy life to offer such support touches my heart, dear chosen sister!
I’m so happy this resonates with you. Your words always land on my heart in the most profound ways.
THANK YOU, CL. I love you, dearly. I’m going to say a special prayer for you and yours right now. Please take care—I’ll carry your spirit and love with me. ❤️🤍🩵
PS—I saved a video of your beginning of the year dance. At times, I watch and participate for the peace and love. It’s calming and makes me smile. ❤️🎶🥰
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Karla sending you so many hugs. Amongst all the madness to us, there is still so much beauty to fill our hearts. That’s what your words, your voice always do, fill our hearts with so much beauty. God bless you ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you, dear friend. When I read your words, knowing you’re stopping by from across the big pond, it encourages me! THANK YOU for your beautiful words, support, and constant encouragement. God bless you too, dear friend (and Hawklad!). I feel your hugs and I hope you feel mine too! Have a wonderful week! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for your message of love and faith, dear Karla. I also love that you quote wisdoms from individuals of varied backgrounds and beliefs, as well as the fact that you emphasize those things that unite rather than divide us.
I hope your dad is enjoying his birthday celebration in the fold of his loving family.
All the best to you and your loved ones,
Tanja
Thank you, dear Tanja. It’s my blessing to share. I try to hold on to my faith and positive mindset; writing about it keeps me focused on it, too.
Unite rather than divide. Yes, my friend. It’s a tough world. When we can rally around the things that make us the same life is better.
Dad enjoyed his get together, I think ;-). He is very loved. He and mom keep plugging along; despite all their challenges. I pray and hope you and yours are doing the best possible.
Happy Sunday, my friend. I appreciate you. Have a wonderful week, Tanja.
Thank you, dear Karla. I’m glad your parents are still with you and were able to celebrate your Dad’s birthday together.
All the best,
Tanja
You’re welcome, my friend. Take care, Tanja. I appreciate you!
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Karla, my time spent with this post offers ample opportunity to see hope in action. Thank you for sharing your Dad’s birthday. The world seems to hurtling through the Cosmos with darkness. During my morning time with God’s Word, He helps me to always see His light. Peace be with you.
Thank you, Richard, for sharing your testimony of feeling God’s light and peace in your times with Him. I understand so much. I feel you!
I appreciate your support and wisdom. We’re in this together! Many blessings!