Community Call

On By K.L. HaleIn Blog feed, Essay

It was small-town America in the 1970’s and 80’s. Basketball and softball games, parties, church gatherings, neighborhood garage sales, bonfires, and face-to-face fun! There was even a time when home visits were scheduled to meet neighbors (gasp!)! Some of us would even Christmas carol during the holidays. Halloween included the whole town, not just one “safe” neighborhood. Everyone knew everyone and everything. A tiny Main Street, a small school, a hometown grocer, a bank, gas stations, and many steeples. The bookmobile even visited in the summer (an idea I had—bring back the mobile bookstore in an RV—The “Roaming Reader”). My community was small, and I still love it.

Growing up in a small community had its advantages. It was tight-knit, similar in people and experiences, and unique to its culture. Shared experiences, good or bad, can bring a community together. They can also separate them. Communities have cliques. Communities aren’t perfect. We’re human-so how can they be? The community from which I recently moved was “made up” of several tiny towns. Before that, a campfire was a central meeting spot to create community at the campground I lived and worked! Do you enjoy your community? Do you feel a sense of community where you live?

Cultivating a cooperative community requires miracles effort. Do we even desire community? Or would we rather keep to ourselves?

Recently, I checked on my near 87 year old neighbor, and retired pastor, Edward. His first words to me were, “Why am I still here?” At his VA check-up he was asked, “Do you ever feel like not being here?” “Of course!,” he replied to the nurse; who looked strangely at him. “Shouldn’t every Christian feel that way?” He told me she laughed in understanding. Edward DOESN’T want to die…he just knows what’s waiting. And he’s lonely. My neighbor to the right of me, Ms. Pat, is so lovely. Across the street is a precious young family (reminds me of my own sons and their families). To the left, another incredible small family. There are several singles, like me, living among the neighborhood. Another neighbor and his wife invited me to church. Generally, we all wave, close our garage doors, and slip into our homes.

Could we start an infection of kind invitations? What if we looked outside of ourselves to SEE others. Yes, it’s hard. It’s not easy to LOVE or even less, just to LIKE (unless you tap it on a screen). Maybe being alone is safer? Or maybe your safety is being only with those who look, think, say, and feel as you.

If we don’t share the same values, beliefs, and experiences, we may not get together for personal coffee chats often. I’ve had situations in which I “morphed” into someone I don’t know. Faith-grown maturity halted that. At my very CORE is a love for God. At your core, who are you? What do you believe? Even if we don’t agree, I will try very hard to show love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (I want to be VERY FRUITY-Galations 5:22). YOU and I are STILL valued as community members; or should be. A community can’t be created without communication. Certainly, Facebook, Instagram, or other social media outlets are a form of community—there are reasons why I prefer face-to-face. The community in which I’m writing about is not about whether one is married or single. I’m talking about the DESIRE to contribute to the human race. Ironically, many goals and visions of schools in my past included, “To become a productive member of society” (now, let’s add, “ …by working remotely from home, 90% on my device, to develop authentic and long-lasting relationships?) I’m not trying to sound cheeky. It’s my observations.

Why is this on my mind? Last week a dear friend and I had a conversation about this very topic (and our shared “longing” for the mountains). It wasn’t a “coincidence” that community had been on both of our hearts. Both of us have experienced a community campground that is near and dear to our hearts. Two days later I was commenting on a blog post about community. So WHERE do we create community? At our workplace? In a church? At a campground? In our homes?

Workplaces offer unique situations; we don’t CHOOSE who we work around (or most of us don’t). What can WE do to create a sense of community? How do we stop the spread of indifference, unconcern, coldness, insensitivity, passivity, detachment, and boredom? Can we provide a booster shot of care, concern, sensitivity, warmth, passion, interest,…and LOVE? Could we prevent cynicism? Many might criticize modern-day churches due to mixed messages or politics (because we can’t have life without politics, correct?). There are many things I may not agree with in organized religion, but I don’t discredit people, with shared values and beliefs, operating and living with the truth and GOODNESS of God. My truth may not match what you believe to be true. I will listen to yours. Let’s have a dialogue and conversation. You’d also like to talk about a new show you’re watching? I will try to find interest; listen and relate the best I can! Families? Grandkids? Nature? Or history? I’m all about that! Do you know Jesus? I’m really all about him, too.

Last weekend I watched a movie titled, “Land”. After experiencing an unthinkable tragedy, a woman secluded herself in the mountains of Montana. She had no desire to be around humans. The actress, fishing in her flannel, was surrounded by stunning scenery. For many reasons, I could relate. Mountains and the river were her community; then another human came along at just the right time (it helped that they both communicated well with one another after TIME). It’s easy for me to want to seclude myself. It’s easy to be a loner (especially when facing health challenges). After learning to love myself, being alone wasn’t a bother. It can be inconvenient, yes, it can be lonely at times,…but God reminds me I’m NEVER alone. HE COMMUNICATES BEAUTIFULLY.

Heavenly Father, you got me right in the heart, right on time. 💚

Tragedies are occurring daily; friends close to me are living with the unthinkable. Can we reach out? Can we help create a compassionate community? Can we cause a crumbling of comparison and callousness? Will we nurture neighborly? Can we extend an invitation? I’m so thankful for the communities in which I’ve lived, the relationships I’ve had and have now, and the ones I’m left to cultivate during my time here. It’s a bit tricky, given my current health journey, but I can STILL be better at community (my doctor’s office is its own little community filled with amazing humans!). No matter what, surrounded by a loving community or alone, you are loved. 💚

Have faith 💛

 

“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” Hebrews 10:24-25

Community Call:

Friends (some of you I’ve known my entire life and others for a few days, weeks, months, and years), I’m so thankful for you and our community here. It’s such an authentic and heartwarming place! To keep my creative side growing, I’ve designed 3 logos for Flannel with Faith. I’d love to take a “community” vote on your favorite one. Feel free to join in and choose your favorite! Thank you for being such a collaborative and considerate community. 💕 Your friends, Karla & Finn

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  5. Ginger Salvatore's avatar Ginger Salvatore

    Logo #2 Karla! But I would like to see a couple of hearts in it….at the beginning of FLANNEL and at the end of FAITH.

    Communities come in so many sizes and shapes. One size doesn’t always fit all, nor should it. I think it’s possible for people who keep to themselves to be part of a community. They are probably in contact with more people than they realize. Perhaps not at their kitchen table or in the comfort of their living room, but via phone or text, perhaps email. Maybe with the person who brings their Meals On Wheels or delivers their prescriptions/medical supplies.

    I agree with you, feeling safe is a big factor in keeping to yourself. We live in a dangerous, yet glorious, world. But we all reach out to someone at some time, and we don’t forget their kindness.

    You, my friend, and sweet Miss Finley seem to have a far-reaching community. You have touched so many hearts and soothed so many souls, you both must have sprung angel wings by now!

    I think being kind and considerate of those around us, a willingness to listen to others and learn from them, and realizing our differences makes us the same – because we’re ALL different, is the best community builder.

    Keep on keeping on girlfriend. Hugs to you and Finley. Sending my prayers as well. Ginger

    Sent from my iPad

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    1. Ginger, I love this, “communities come in so many sizes and shapes. One size doesn’t always fit all, nor should it.” Amen! After years in an “extrovert” job (and even when I left for the day after work) I wanted to keep to myself. I crave solitude (and quiet). It’s changed over the years. Life is fluid. Circumstances are fluid. I’m like you, when I thought I WASN’T part of a community any longer, I really was; just in different ways like you mentioned! I think I can stomach the back pain thinking I’m growing angel wings. That’s precious, Ginger. Kindness goes a long way. I long for a community of kindness—it’s truly a great foundation! I’ll keep on, my friend. Are you doing ok? I’m so happy to see you. Much love, prayer, and hugs (Finn sends them too). 💛🙏

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  7. Karla, your logo designs are beautiful and each has interesting elements. I’m torn between logos #1 and #3. As I click through them several times, I keep coming back to #1. In my mind, it feels like you.
    You are correct, community is essential and it takes intentionality to connect to a community.

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    1. Aww, Manette, thank you for being part of my life. You enhance it! Thank you for the specific feedback on the logos. How thoughtful! I had such fun doing it (great for the brain)! I’m glad to be your prayer partner and friend! 🙏

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    1. It doesn’t surprise me, Kelley, that we have similar childhood communities! I appreciate you so much! I’m tallying the votes-it’s fun! Thank you so much for being here and being a great friend and support. X💕

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  9. PS – originally I liked logo #1 because of the color combo. It reminded me of another logo I really like (attached). But when I zoomed in and saw the detail, I liked #2 the best followed by #3 sliding #1 into last. Oh well. I didn’t see a place to vote on the webpage – did I miss something?

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    1. Thank you, Brent! You didn’t miss anything! I was just taking votes in the comment sections. I appreciate it so much! There’s a “block” for surveys, I believe. I need to assess this and try it out! With input from everyone, I might be able to take what is the favorite “element” and even apply it to the one that has the most votes!

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  10. I tend to hide and not embrace community, so I appreciate your thoughtful words, encouraging me to get out there and lean in. 💚

    I vote for logo #1, great work!

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    1. Mama, I thought we were similar in that way. I’ve been more like that in the last 7 years so I know there are reasons God has placed this on my heart (and on the hearts of those around me that suddenly started the conversations with me). I’m leaning in with you, my friend! I appreciate your friendship, wisdom, prayers, and support! Thank you for the vote! 💛

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  11. Karla; What a great, thoughtful post! I absolutely believe the whole concept of COMMUNITY is key right now. When our sense of a shared life and shared future goes away, so do all the things that make life purposeful and meaningful. Those of us fortunate enough to grow up in small towns have rich memories of what that looked like day to day. I think it is the reason for the popularity of most forms of social media. People yearn for community and try to create it electronically. It kind of works, but kind of doesn’t. Besides instruction in the ways of faith, community is one of the reasons I find church so essential. Good job hitting on a vitally important subject.

    Blessings to you and yours. My vote, incidentally, is for logo #3.

    Russell

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    1. Thank you for this thoughtful and affirming response, Russell. You nailed what I was hoping to convey (you have a way with words :-)! “People yearn for community…it kinda works, but kind of doesn’t.” I think of how I wouldn’t be able to “see” my family and grandkids without technology. But it isn’t the foundation of our relationship-however, without it, it would be tricky. I think in some ways technology can keep us from engaging conversations (except for here ;-). I was emailing a friend back and forth about the general disrespect and division in the country (and even given to one another during Covid). Disrespect definitely hurts community. I’ve swallowed my pride (and still do) at times to be more respectful. Kindness and community can help spread the message of Christ and his love! Thank you for your vote! Even more so, thank you for your continued support, encouragement, and prayers!

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  12. Karla- were you speaking to me? My goodness, I felt like every single word written on my screen was like sitting and having coffee with you as you read my mind (and my heart!!) How I would love to meet in person – face-to face – and share coffee, communion and community with you! We would talk for hours about the mountains conquered, puppy tales, and life travails. But I feel so blessed to share a friendship across the miles and through our words. Your wisdom is deep and refreshing and I am grateful that you chose to share it with us – and me especially!
    Your artwork is wonderful – any one of the logos would work and initial I was going to vote for #2 but the more I look at them the more I think #1 speaks of the REAL you.
    Love you my soul sister. In faith and friendship,
    Erika

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    1. Absolutely I’m reading your soul! I’m all about coffee chats, communion, and sharing stories of our mountains and puppies. You’d enjoyed my coffee time with my sister, Kim. We’re all speaking the “same language”. As much as it’s easy to want to “hide” (and I have), desiring community is healthy. Just to show kindness and caring would make a huge difference in others’ lives! Thank you for your beautiful light and wisdom. I’m thankful we have one another across the miles…sip sip hooray! Thank you also for sharing your vote! I’m curious—what about #1 seems to be the REAL me? Or is it explainable? Just a feeling evoked when seeing it? You know I’m curious, lol! Love you sister! 💛❤️

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    2. I think the vibrant colors of #1 reflects your vibrancy for life – plus to me, the birds represent your soaring spirit. The other two remind me too much of every other T-shirt advertising Glacier park! LOL.

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      1. Erika, that is awesome! LOL! Yes, I understand what you mean. I think I can take the “elements” that some like or dislike and create one. But the best? That you all helped me. I chose the pic in the first one BECAUSE of the birds and colors! Spirit-connected indeed! 💛

  13. Hard…but logo 2…after 3 cups of coffee, a walk, and tossing a coin for an hour Karla 🤣
    As for community, you show it right here dear lady, in sharing that truth in your heart and your journey. Yes, it tends to be a little more electronic these days but even I can feel the love in your words. Love will indeed find a way my friend, its power is beyond us all down here, by being in us all wherever we are. I do think this world has so much ‘stress’ in so much of our lives that we just want to go home after a long day and just ‘veg’ out. But as I said, love still will find a way ❤️
    Great post Karla, and I thank you for the community you share on here. Even in where you are currently at, your heart still speaks, if not more powerfully because of it. Big hugs from community over here dear lady, always glad to hear you from over there. Thank you kindly 🤣❤️🙏

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    1. My dear Mark! I can’t stop giggling at the first sentence. You are so precious and funny! Finn and I want to visit the Down Under and sip coffee and wave at whales—I digress,…it will never happen, but there’s Google Earth and I bet I can SEE YOU waving at me. Love always finds a way, doesn’t it? You nailed it, too, Mark! I have such wise friends here! “So much stress that people want to “veg” out. My former career took so much “emotional energy” that I was completely drained when I got home. Covid forced everyone to stay at home and hey, we liked it! Or some of us did (I loved it). It takes SO MUCH EFFORT. For me, I decided on a time that works for me and as a writer, I’m going to send NOTES (which is why I want to design a new logo!). I want to create hopeful and happy messages to give to people. I love giving gifts and writing encouraging notes. By giving them in person, I’m creating a sense of community, without having to take up too much of others’ times. Then, I’d like to have a neighborhood bbq. Perhaps a block party, but I will need help because I physically can’t do it all—so again, perhaps my new friends (I know two are excited) will join in. It’s a start! Like you said, love finds a way! I’m so happy we’re in the same “community” here, my friend. It enriches my life! Big hugs and love from the Finster and I! 🐾🩵

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      1. Perfect reply dear lady, and indeed you are creating that community just as you are. I have no doubt a ‘block’ party would indeed bring people out again into the sunshine and/or evening stars and just ‘heal’ in doing it. And after the bbq, chatting, singing, and connecting they would all go home and sleep the good sleep for the first time in ages. Those times are indeed healing within themselves, even many smiles would be born overnight to wander for days and weeks after. Enjoy my friend in whatever you do, and my heart will be there too. Big hugs to you and Fin, and lots of love in the making of it all 😀❤️🙏

      2. My friend, I love how you “see” the world through your lens of love! It’s a gift from God. You’ll be here in spirit always! Sometimes, we have to take small steps instead of just standing still. I read that we, as believers in God, should use our tongues as “thermostats” to CHANGE the temperature rather than thermometers that just gauge the heat or cold. I want to speak life. It’s as simple as “I am strong” vs “I am weak”. So if community can be created, can I not allow my words and actions to match? I should! Bigs hugs and love across a huge pond!! 💛🐾🎶

      3. Being that love within can move mountains Karla. Speak that love, smile that love, touch another with that love. Nothing can stop it…it never has with you or me…thankfully 🤣❤️🙏

      4. Let’s move some mountains, strategically….place them across the land—climb from continent to continent? Just a thought! Let’s not stop! 💛

  14. an inspirational [post, Karla; right now I am working on forming a community with my church group; it’s so hard: you don’t always ‘click’ with everyone and I get discouraged; but I’m trying —

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    1. John, way to go, my friend. Thank you for your support and encouragement. You inspire me! It’s hard. I had years of working in groups. It’s very difficult when you don’t “click” (which is exactly why I mentioned I probably wouldn’t be having coffee talks with those who don’t share the same vision and beliefs). I know good and well that I NEED to have hard conversations; but John, people want to argue or just walk away mad. Some don’t have patience or even care to want to be better communicators. Again, that makes it hard for community efforts. When I was a little girl I couldn’t believe how MEAN some of the women at church were. I’d hug tight to those who were happy and cheerful. I knew God loved us all but I couldn’t figure out why so many people were just darn mean! ha! We all have our days…maybe together, we could be even better. I’m always praying for you, John! We’re on similar paths and I gain so much wisdom from you…look at you! Just wow!

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  15. Brent, I missed you today! I emailed Heather at 1:55 pm to share my regards with everyone. I’m house/dog sitting for a cousin. It’s been such fun! Finley, all 5 lbs of her, is enjoying her two “temporary” BIG boy cousins (compared to Finn, most dogs are big). They are Havanese. It’s been a fun time and so good for me to keep practicing my “adaptation” skills—and it’s a win-win to earn money for a trip to the Grand Canyon. More than anything, I’m just happy to help and be here. I have an iPad now and a keyboard. However, when trying to “publish” this piece, my software was being tricky. I went home and finished it on my PC more smoothly. That, coupled with all the dogs, kept me away (it was evident that my attention would be adverted, lol 😂). Thank you for your support and friendship. Your feedback means so much! Lake Wobegon, yes! The small town is Clever, MO. It’s actually much bigger now than when I grew up. There are many small towns around Springfield. I’m so happy to hear all went well at court! I’m so happy your driving might settle a bit; although I know appointments are a trip! And yes, the transfusion has been a couple of weeks. My blood started going up and then last Friday, back down. It’s good I like roller coasters, lol. My dr informed me this morning I’ll go to infusion center weekly until I’m “built back up” again. It amazes me what I’m able to do; and then I suddenly drop. I’m thankful for every hour as I know you are too, my friend! I look forward to seeing you and everyone next Wednesday (I do get to ZOOM with Steph next Tuesday night!). Many blessings, Brent!

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  16. As others have stated, great post. Your experience in the small town is a gift beyond measuring, for it never stops giving. The memories and meanings that come with the small town community life are not known to the urban/suburban dweller. Things like being gone from morning until dark, sometimes dark-thirty, and your parents not all that worried about you. You were always “just down the street,” so what to worry?

    When my family moved back to the mountains, we were miles from any town. Before that we lived in small town (and one big one). After this move, the towns nearby were mostly 100 people (or fewer) and a sawmill, gas station, market and post office. One town even had a school. You have seen such places along the lesser roads in the Ozarks, I’m sure.

    Now, my friends weren’t down the street, but more like behind that mountain. Cars helped to stay connected, especially once I could drive on my own. The “party-line” phone was the last resort, right behind walking four miles to see a friend.

    Yet, there was still a sense of community. People stopped by on their way to somewhere just to visit a while. The market or gas station was a regular place for catching up, as was a church building. That sense of community was more intentional due to the fact you did not normally run into or even see your neighbors. You had to make time, make community happen.

    Your writing brought so much to mind, Karla. This is evidence of good writing. Thank you for sharing your history of community. You quietly, almost imperceptibly brought forward a facet that few who have lived in the communities you describe ever speak about. Underlying all that small community connected life together was something deeply and quietly selfless. It is a kind of pervasive, just in the background, barely visible yet palpable, love. Yes, there it is. Love. The opposite of self is love. You could count on people there to be inherently selfless. And if needed in a pinch, and they would selflessly come through. The most basic form of love.

    Such is the stuff of true community, a kind of communion experienced at a level appropriate to each person and family, but still there all the time.

    Once again, you brought us a rich gift. Thank you.

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    1. Your words create an even deeper message to the one I was hoping to convey. Tim, the communion (so perfectly stated-“experienced at a level appropriate to each person and family, but still there all the time.”) and underlying love. Lessons were learned in my hometown. In every form and fashion. From the hometown much was “grown”, including faith. If you love hard enough, you only remember the warm things that kept you safe. The coldness is covered by grace. Like in all life. Tim, I had such visuals thinking of your friends behind the mountain (you on one side YELLING to the other, with a HUGE backpack —and a dog?—“hiking” to go meet a friend). The Ozarks are indeed scattered in the “back parts” with these types of towns. When I solo’d (with Finn) I remember this amazing route out of Boise into Missoula, Montana. I loved winding around all the tiny areas; particularly taking a picture of the Lincoln School in Lincoln, Montana (finding out some odd history there later). I thought of how my car was all I needed to jump to the next spot to see my loved ones. And yes, growing up in my neighborhood, the 4 “K’s” (all our names begin with “K”) spent our days, and nights, at one another’s’ homes. We all new to be home by dark. I’ve visited large cities; can imagine what it would’ve been like, but also can’t fathom it all. I enjoy our conversations about Christ, life, and all the things of communion and Spirit-living. I do know we, that believe, belong to a community and it’s enriched through shared experiences. I appreciate our conversations about Christ; the “iron sharpening iron”. What you said about my writing means so much to me. I struggled writing this for many days. Lack of sleep, pain, inconsistency,…I wanted to complete my thought that began so many days ago. Thank you for being a part of my journey. I pray for you and am proud of all the work you’re doing in making a difference in the lives of others—by following Christ’s example! Give Jackson and Rascal belly and ear rubs from Finn and I. Many blessings my friend!!

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  17. I really like all 3, possibly no 2 the best, I love that mountain.

    A wonderful reminder of a vital part of life. Sadly it’s too easy to withdraw or get separated from communities, but we are so much more when we have God and we can share our love with others. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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    1. I loved the mountain of #2, too! I love trees….So…lots of trees. Thank you for your beautiful thoughts, and for being here. I thought of you when writing this, my friend. I thought of how I met you, here in this space, and the worlds that come together through this community. It couldn’t have happened on Facebook or another form. It was here, with our words, life, and authenticity. With God, and one another, we ARE so much more—that’s exquisitely said, my dear friend! Pretend I’m reaching across the huge pond and wrapping you and Hawklad and a huge group hug! That’s how this community feels, so for that, I’ll always be thankful. 💕💕

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  18. Good morning, Karla. How I love this post and it is spot on. Since retirement, it is so easy to not pursue community. But, I need the interaction with others, so I press on! You are always in my prayers, sweet friend!

    I vote for # 1, in my mind it fits you perfectly. Sending love and hugs 💛🌻🎶🤗🥰

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    1. Sweet Pam, thank you so much for being here and for your kind words about this! Pam, I’m behind on my email and I found one “dangling” in my past. I do want to share so thank you for your patience. I pray for you and Butch daily. I started marigolds in my tiny hydroponic system. I thought, “Why not flowers?” I transplanted them into a box in the back yard that needs LOTS more dirt and work. They grew and grew; but never bloomed. I’m dog/house sitting and I went home to water and there were 3 blooms. I thought of you! I thought of the cottage and the beautiful landscape and scenery and how you’ve cultivated, over so many years, a lush landscape of love. And I thought how my one little bloom can be part of Pam’s garden. I just had to share. Your prayers mean so much! I love you! And thank you for voting! Please let Butch know I’m praying, too. 💛💐

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    1. Jennie! I smiled seeing your name! If anyone understands community, it’s you. You are the epitome of creating it, cultivating, it, enriching it….I can’t imagine YOUR community without YOU. Thank you for being here. My life is enriched knowing you! I hope to visit your place again soon. My reading has been a bit inconsistent. Thank you, Jennie. This RF sends bigs hugs and love! 💛🙏

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  20. The important stuff – logo #1 gets my vote. I waffled but after looking at them over and over I think #1 is the best. It is colorful, not too cluttered with words, and seems friendly! As for community, the connections we make through proximity should always be our primary and core affiliation. It starts with family and expands to neighbors. This can be reinforced by neighborhood schools. And although face-to-face allows for an easy exchange of personal experiences and dreams, the online community is perhaps a little more honest. We have to fight the tendency to self-segregate based on shared experiences, religious affiliations, race, and sexual orientation. I like to think that my community is more diverse due to my WP friends…. Hope today is a good one for you! <3 (hugs) <3

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    1. Val, what a beautiful response my friend! It is a blog within a blog. Proximity ~yes! I felt terrible when I met Edward after so long of living close~and Pat,…and others. It just makes me sad to see houses, occupied,and not say “I tried.” I think it’s easier to say, “They could be dangerous or mean or not want anyone near!” True! But how will we know? I love your words, …”We have to fight the tendency to self-segregate based on shared experiences, religious affiliations, race, and sexual orientation.” Sitting in airports many times, solo travel or just visiting close places with others, opens my “world”. Like you, WP opened my “world” too. Don’t take this wrong, Val,…Im not calling you this, lol…but some of us here are glad to find likeminded weirdos who sense everything, observe, write, create, …you know what I mean! And then it’s as simple as finding someone who has the same hobbies and loves the same movies, books, or humor. It’s definitely opened my world and helped me fill a void in communication that I’ve felt inside of me. I’m so glad you’re in my life! I’m glad I “caught” your “viruses” several years ago. Give the prayer warriors my love! I’m off soon to get superpowers again,💕💚❤️🙏🏻 hugs and love to you and Mochi 🐾✝️💚

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  21. I love your heart and how you reach across the table no matter the burden or what you are dealing with.
    My father in law at 98 says I’m done and the next day he’s making his way to exercise. Life is up and down and I’m glad and privileged to the ride with you!! You are such a force of the universe Karla!!! I’m glad you were born!💕

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    1. Cindy, what a humbling and moving response! I want to be like your Father-in-law! My Dad is my hero (and my Mom, of course)! He’s overcome so many health challenges~I imagine he feels as your Father-in-law at times (and my neighbor). It’s the ups and downs that keeps my “skills sharpened?” Lol
      I love your heart and you. I’m glad we’re here together. Your niece, her story, your book and blog,…you’re a light! 💕🙏🏻✝️

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      1. I know me too. They are our role modles for sure. Wow what a super hero your dad is. We just have to stay sharp when we’re dull, open when we want to shrink. Stand tall when we wilt and carry on like you teach us each and everyday. Together our hearts are rainbows to the soul to everyone we meet. love you and your faith, light and love! 🇧🇹🇧🇹

      2. Taking the time to share with me and encourage me…it’s priceless, Cindy. I don’t take the resource of time lightly. Particularly yours considering your full plate. I’m deeply grateful for your love and influence on me. 💛❤️💐

  22. OK. Of the three choices, #2 is my favourite. However, what would #1 one look like
    without the green? I love the image and the orange but I don’t like the green. Am I confusing you?

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    1. You don’t confuse me! I get it! Pam, first, I’m hugging you (do you feel it?). Can I get us tea? 2nd—I think I can take the comments and create a logo using the input of everyone. How cool is that? Community Collaboration? Collaboration just makes me happy! Happy Friday, sweet Pam. Many hugs and love. Thank you for being a vital part of my “community”! 💛💚

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  23. We need fellowship. God created us as social beings designed for relationship with God and other people. I am glad we connected here in the blogging world little sister 🙂

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      1. I didn’t comment about “community” because it’s something that brings up a lot of feelings for me. It’s quite difficult to summarize my thoughts about the topic. That being said, after trying out different homeschool groups off and on in NV since April. (Not to mention the year and a half we tried in ID) I’m hopeful that we have finally found a good fit. 😎 Friends are truly a blessing. They can be hard to find sometimes. Now we still need to find a home church… 🙏

      2. I understand, my friend. After many years of struggling with, it shocked me how it was placed on my heart and ALL around me. For many reasons, O wanted to seclude (and still do at times). Living in my RV changed a lot of feelings I had about community; and life in general. I’m so happy to hear about the good fit in NV. I reflect on ALL you’ve been through over the years, …the fire, RV, homes,…I’m so inspired by you. In many ways, jealous (not trying to minimize what you’ve endured) for those times back with my sons, having wished I had opportunities to be more “individualistic” in offerings of learning (if that makes sense?). Where would we be without them? Like you, I haven’t found a church home. That is something I struggle with writing about, but I’ll get there. First, I’ll step out next door. I keep you all in my prayers. My daughter-in-law’s work full time as Moms (and all that overtime you do 😉). I often think of your projects and kids when reflecting on my own family. May God continue to keep you safe and blessed each day! 💚

  25. “What if we looked outside of ourselves to SEE others.” Yes! That’s ongoing challenge for self-absorbed me, but a truly necessary one, Karla. I lean toward logo #2.

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    1. Mitch, I’m working hard on this! I love the effort and results! From what I know about you, self-absorption doesn’t seem to be a trait! But I understand. I appreciate you so much, dear friend! Thank you for your vote! #2 is my favorite. Stay blessed and well!

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  29. Such a beautifully written and thoughtful post Karla. I love this observation, “A community can’t be created without communication.” So needed in our remote world where we’re more connected with our phones than each other. I love you Karla! And my vote goes with design #2 but all are beautiful. Much love and hugs my friend, C

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    1. Thank you, C! I love you so much! Your words, thoughts, and perspectives always matter because it comes from such a place of care for me. It warms my heart so much! I love #2. It’s going to be fun to do this—I had everyone vote. I’ll look at all the votes and use the input to create one that has the elements that everyone liked—I LOVE COLLABORATION! I had this thought—aren’t we all ONE? Those that believe—we’re already ONE—so why not act like we are? Covid isn’t the only thing to blame. As you said, our phones can be a great disconnect! I feel the hugs and love. They mean so much! ❤️💛🙏

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  30. great post – a good reminder for me that one never knows what’s going on with others unless one gets to know them – & even then…

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  33. Karla, I really enjoyed your blog post. You brought up so many important points, and your writing is clear and engaging. I’ve definitely stepped back from people for many reasons, and I know that some people have stepped back from me as well. But I’m grateful to you and others in the blogging community who keep me in the loop. Your posts help me stay connected to the world, even when I’m not able to be as social as I’d like. 🤍🤍 BTW, I LOVE LOGO #1! It’s bright and beautiful – so much like you!!

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    1. Aww, thank you, Stacy! That means so much to me. My cancer put me “out there” again…in the eyes, ears, and minds of others. What I’ve learned is that people care (for the most part). There will always be “those” who don’t or their purpose for engaging may come from a place that doesn’t match my beliefs (or it could just be plain nosiness, lol). It’s hard to “put myself out there”. Those who really KNOW YOU will be your biggest supporters, Stacy. I feel the “dance” of those who step in and step out reflect the authenticity of the relationship. And we both know, seasons come and go. God puts different people in our lives during those times. Undoubtedly, being able to use the lessons learned by all can truly help us–either in adding a new layer of wisdom to be used for a shared purpose or in learning to stop giving value to new layers that don’t align at all. Either way, it’s a lesson learned! In many ways, other than my hiking and campground experiences, it’s those here, in this space, that I’ve found the most shared experiences. It’s not about where we grew up, went to school, careers,…but about what’s under the surface and how these commanilities create this virtual community (NOT Facebook) that is real based on thoughts, dream, experiences…although I do enjoy those who share recipes, trip pictures, etc…I love “surface” conversations. I consider myself a fun, off the cuff, let’s go adventure…but it’s in the deep connections in a community, where you accept the differences and use them to be better, that I can learn to love “community” again. I don’t feel, here, that people compare, gossip, or try to compete. We just are. It’s beautiful! I’m so glad we’re here together! Thank you for choosing #1! It WON! I’m getting ready to post something I wrote yesterday titled, “Skimming the Surface”. You’ll see it reflects this conversation! Sending you love, my friend. And prayers! When I feel as though I’m having a bad day, I think of you. I keep it all in perspective! 💕🙏

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  34. Dear Sweet Karla! Your writings so often inspire me. This post is a special one. 💕 My heart really took a deep-dive when you spoke,”At my very CORE is a love for God. At your core, who are you?” A great pondering on that for me, dear friend. I think I would use an expanded version of Jesus’ reply. I AM HIS. I AM His Beloved Daughter, WHO AM. I think at no other point in my life, than now, have I felt that more clearly. Some very (once) important Community’s have been stripped away from me, leaving me with navigating through “who I AM.” And coming out on the other side now, I am grateful with what remains at my CORE. Huge hugs to you for giving me the opportunity to explore this more internally and emotionally, through self-examination inspired by your wonderful post. 😊 Blessings to you dear friend! I love that WE share this blogging-community together!😘

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    2. Dawn, it blesses me to know that this writing provided a self-exam; internally and emotionally. It sounds as if we’ve had similar experiences. Your words did the same for me—thank you so much, sweet friend. “I AM HIS”. YES. “I AM his beloved daughter.” It’s the CORE of us. That’s how I try and see everyone. It’s not always easy; but immediately when I meet someone I think about how that individual was created and wonderfully made by God. I’m so happy we’re here together! Love and Hugs (and giggles). 💛💕

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  35. Those Psalms and the excerpt from Hebrews really hit me hard – in the best way! My wife and I have been thinking about this a lot recently, how to be present in our church community while not simply travelling in a bubble and missing connection with the wider community of the suburb in which we live. It can be too easy to travel from our house, to work, to a cafe or restaurant, to church, to sport, to a concert, and while travelling be so insular we miss a lot that God puts in front of us. In a way, this is another idea I’ve unintentionally included in the book I’m writing!

    Happy Tuesday. 😊🧡

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