Ideal Independence

 As we approach our nation’s America 250 milestone, I find myself reflecting on what ideal independence really looks like—not just for a country, but for the heart and the home.

History proves that declaring independence and achieving it are two entirely different milestones.

Historical Heritage

Historically, many have lost their independence in our country—from our first native settlers, to those enslaved, and to those dependent on others for freedom. Our independence comes at a cost. Good and bad intentions might drive the need for liberty, just as those same intentions are often forced upon others who never wanted to lose their freedom in the first place.

But a declaration is merely the first step. As the National Constitution Center notes, true independence wasn’t legally recognized by Great Britain until the Treaty of Paris was signed seven long years later September 3, 1783.

***For anyone interested, I recently tested my knowledge on the timeline of the American Revolution. If you want to challenge yourself, you can learn about each milestone event right after the quick quiz.***

Divine Dependence

 My independence is dictated by my health—even more so with each passing year. The reality is I will have improvements and limitations. Setbacks and successes. My independence will fluctuate with these inevitable ups and downs.

Shifting from self-reliance to completely trusting God through every situation has proven that being dependent ON HIM is how I continue to find joy in the juggling of day-to-day activities.

If you know this one true Source, you understand.

A doctor told my dad last summer that the best way to stay independent is to ask for help. It makes me wonder:

  • How often do we ask others (or Google) before we ask God?
  • Do we spend alone time with Him to refill and refuel?
  • Do we practice the patterns that propel peace?

If there’s no time with our Creator how can you experience true freedom? INDEPENDENCY becomes the ability to hold truth tightly and worldly things loosely–all because of DEPENDENCY on Him!

Personal Preservation

When I think about kids, I smile. I have memories of my own boys and students who felt they weren’t given enough independence at times. And maybe too much at other times. It’s a balance!

It makes me wonder: Will we use our history—both personal and patriotic—to teach them how that independence (freedom!) was gained? Or will we simply “skate” over the truth and throw another burger on the grill?

I DO want to celebrate the freedom and faith we enjoy, recognizing that I did absolutely nothing to achieve them. For that, I am incredibly humbled. What if we actively taught and modeled to children the responsibilities and respect that come with these freedoms?

Looking ahead …thirty, forty, or fifty years down the road, how will we honor our own independence?

  • Will we lose the faith and resilience it took to get there?
  • Do we hold so tightly to our self-reliance that we block the blessings of faith, family, friends, and community?
  • What are we fighting to preserve?
  • What are the core pieces of our inner freedom we refuse to let go?

We live in a world that constantly tries to “self-protect”—from future domes to our own homes, whether we are looking at computer screen or physically seen.If your independence begins to fade, to whom will you turn?

We have a huge God who loves us completely. He is longing for us to find Him. When all else is lost, He will forever be the ultimate treasure. True liberty—living fully liberated—is ultimately found in complete dependence on the only One who is everlasting and true.

Do you know how loved you are?

Happy July, precious friends. Keep the faith. ❣️


Friends, the NET community experienced a great loss. From his beloved wife, Lisa: “With a heart full of grief and gratitude, I share that my beloved Tom passed away peacefully…The past few days were surrounded by friends and family, enveloped by love…with so much love and with faith that he is at peace.” Tom Bajoras’s lasting spirit, amazing giftedness in music, and the love for his amazing wife, Lisa, will remain. According to her, he was the kindest and most gentlest soul she’s ever known. He had a rare gift for finding beauty in the ordinary. They recently celebrated their 20th anniversary. It was an honor to write about this extraordinary NET friend and his beloved wife, Lisa. Please join me in praying for Lisa and the entire family, a HUGE host of friends, fans, and followers, and the NCF team through these difficult days.

Tom released this beautiful collection for his beloved, Lisa, not long ago, in celebration of their anniversary. You can find his music on Spotify and Apple.


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Milestone May

Between the miles along Route 66 from Chicago to Los Angeles, to the miles I’ve traveled in my journey, it’s easy for me to call this new month, “Milestone May!” Needless to say, the folks in my town have plenty of opportunities to celebrate this first weekend in May!

Yesterday’s “kick off” included a visit from the 3rd hour of the Today Show! It seems they enjoy Andy’s Custard as much as us folks in S.W. Missouri! Between concerts, car shows, and celebrities, this month is off to a great kick start!

In the heart of downtown Springfield, Missouri, inside the historic Colonial Hotel, a telegram was sent on April 30th, 1926 giving this road its name! Route 66 (the Mother Road) changed the map of America.

Public domain image of the Colonial Hotel-Springfield, MO. Wikipedia Commons
Courtesy of Special Collections, Missouri State University (thank you, Anne, for all your help!)

May Maintenance

While the rest of the city is kicking around the annual festival, seeing and listening to the roar of classic engines, I’ll step into May, not for any highspeed momentum, but for another month of maintenance (with a move).

Those classic cars require specialized care; so do we! Maybe my “kicks” won’t be found on the open road–but they continue to be found in the steadiness of treatment and the mendedness that only comes when I slow down.

I’ll keep allowing the Great Physcian to work under my hood!

One hundred years for a highway. Over halfway for me-and four specifically on this new section of my road!

Memory Lane

Route 66 is lined with more than just neon sign and diners; it’s paved with decades of stories (I’ve enjoyed hearing them this week!). Whether it’s a childhood road trip in a station wagon or a sunset drive through Springfield, did you ever travel the 66? I’d love to know which ‘mile marker’ in life or on the road holds a special place in your heart!

What a milestone May! Filled with maintenance, mercies, mendedness, and the Mother Road. Whether you’re cruising through a smooth season or stalled in a season of repair, I’m so happy you’re here with me!

Do you know how loved you are? Keep the faith, my friends. 💚


My Maintenance

I’ve been currently parked for much-needed maintenance, but my spirits are revving. For many days, I was stalled.

Last Thursday I had my 4th round of PRRT (Peptide Receptor Radionuclide Therapy). Targeting cells that are overexpressed on the tumors, this treatment was approved by the FDA in 2017 for the treatment of NET (and prostate cancer at my hospital). It was a long day, but the hard part wasn’t until 18 hours after. The nausea and flu-like symptoms hit harder than expected.

The fatigue shocks me! But I’m realistic and will keep my engine healthy with good fuel.

My faith and the gas that God provides IN ME keeps me going. I’m better off traveling the slow roads. It’s healthier and more meaningful!

Friends, it’s difficult for me to keep up with messages. Thank you for showing me such MERCY. Your prayers and support have helped me tremendously.

If you know me, you’re aware I don’t focus on what I can’t do–but what I CAN do. May will include a move to somewhere smaller and easier to manage. Also, another maintenance routine. Through it all, I’ll attend a parade or a car show if I can. Wander through a musuem if I have enough gas to go, and always stay in my patterns of praise and prayer. The best will be to travel the highway to spend time with my kids and grands.

Remember your maintenance this May and everyday! Even if our physical momentums are minimalized, may our spiritual and emotional momentums keep moving full speed ahead.


Springfield Celebrations & Route 66 Sights

Andy’s Frozen Custard: Since the Today Show crew gave it their stamp of approval (again!), grabbing a treat is a perfect, low-energy way to join the local celebration.

Route 66 Festival Vibes: Even if you aren’t walking the whole route, driving through downtown to see the classic cars and neon signs can be a great way to feel the “Mother Road” history.

Birthplace of Route 66 Mural: If you’re near the Colonial Hotel site or the History Museum on the Square, there are some wonderful spots to sit and take in the local history without needing a lot of “gas in the tank.”

NET Cancer Friends and Supporters—I’m thrilled to announce that we have a fantastic new mug and t-shirt available in the store! A huge THANK YOU to everyone who is enjoying these products! I would absolutely love your feedback, and if you’re up for it, feel free to share a photo too!

Embracing imperfection with faith, flannel, & fresh air

More Flannel with Faith! 💚

Follow-Up Fable🦓

The trio (Zeb, Kristy, and I) were thrilled. 
My follow-ups were fast and faith-filled.
A rescheduled flight, one-stop, then D.C.
The Institute welcomes rare humanity.

Two scans, scores of blood draws,
and a sticky I.V.
Fasting and waiting,
dreams of driving an R.V.

Two “Hales” were called
we stood to take a look.
Another “Hale” but a male?
That’s one for the books!

Doctors and researchers
from across the world,
my tears of gratitude,
when my story was heard.

My liver and pancreas
look as good as they should!
The nuances of this cancer
can be misunderstood.


A few growing lymph nodes
and bones need a scan.
Two new mutations
will be met with a plan.

A follow-up at home
and a shift in the seasons.
My heart bleeds for others
As I ponder the reasons.

Maintenance helps symptoms,
New meds or monthly shots?
I don’t take this for granted,
I'll give it all that I’ve got.

We're not promised tomorrow
or a life without pain.
Wisdom, growth, love, and RARE
are life-altering to gain.

"Unlike me," Zeb said,
life's not always black and white.
But God made us all unique
and precious in his sight."


K.L. Hale

The National Cancer Institute at the National Institutes of Health is in Bethesda, Maryland. As the nation’s leading federal agency for cancer research, NCI has 30 divisions, offices, and centers that work together to build, maintain, and enhance a cohesive and comprehensive cancer research agenda. Their work ranges from cutting-edge research on cancer causes, treatment, and prevention; to training the next generation of cancer researchers; to funding and supporting the nation’s vast network of scientists and cancer research institutions; to informing and educating the American public and the world about cancer. (cancer.gov). A heartfelt thank you to Dr. Jonathan Hernandez and Dr. Jaydira Del Rivero. Their expertise and research have and are extending and enriching lives–just like mine! When my mind starts questioning or thinking, “How did I (a middle-aged woman from Missouri) access help from THERE?” I smile and say, “Thank you, God,” for it’s surreal!

Keep the faith-have heart. ❣️🦓 Do you know how loved you are?

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Fall Forecast

Faith, family, fall…and Finley, of course! My favorite season will begin soon. Each season brings its own challenges–and miracles! Why not live expecting them? When asked what I’d do in the fall of 2019 I replied with this:

I think I’ll do this again each fall I’m given.

Have faith 💛

My patio gave me love💚

To what greater inspiration and counsel can we turn than to the imperishable truth to be found in this treasure house, the Bible?

Queen Elizabeth II


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Radiation begins this Thursday (bones only-internal radiation, P.R.R.T., will be given at the end of the month). I appreciate your thoughts and prayers as my excellent team of doctors and caregivers move forward with new treatments. I’ve provided links on my website for anyone interested in this rare cancer. I’m happy to report I have a new friend on WP that is also a NET patient. There are about 40 others across the country that are part of a message board I’m on. For any illness or disease support is crucial. Let’s look past the “looks” and know that we all have struggles. If it’s hurting your rally or resolve, upsetting your day, or causing any issues in your life then it’s a challenge–big or small. No matter the “size” of the condition, know this: you are loved and YOU MATTER!