After working for several hours on part II of “My Missouri” series, I felt a tug by the Spirit to write the words that were brimming over my soul. I’ll return to My Missouri series after Easter. Thank you for stopping by to support me!
Health challenges, uncertainties, and changes have brewed like an enormous mug of strong coffee for 9 years. I’m savoring the sweetness and adjusting to the bitter and strong tastes of this cup. It’s been almost 2 years since the diagnosis. It’s been many months of treatments, appointments, miraculous surgery, and side effects. Some are tough. Other side effects, like gratitude, greater empathy, and Godly grit, are positive! Are you experiencing side effects? Do they linger due to loss of health, family, career, or purpose? Perhaps you have positive side effects due to a life-serving choice! How do you cope with side effects?
“Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” Luke 22:42
This week is spiritually significant to me. Holy Week moves me. The Savior I serve walked the Earth, fully man, fully God. Showing love, compassion, kindness, and an opportunity to accept the source of complete life and peace, he surprised folks with his “upside down” ways. Turn the other cheek? Forgive those who hate you? Love your enemies? Give to the poor and the widows? Show humility and meekness? A love-giving, sin-forgiving, hope-providing, disease-healing, outcast-gathering, lowly-lifting, disciple-teaching, grace-abiding, donkey-riding KING… took MY PLACE, YOUR PLACE as an atonement for our alienation. “Shattering the shame and dying for the doubters, Jesus was brutally crucified. “It is Finished.”
“When Jesus had received the sour wine, he said, ‘It is finished,’ and he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.” John 19:30
There were side effects.
A soldier surrendered his skepticism. A mother wept and mourned, then rejoiced. A doubter became a believer. Disciples’ determination drove them to dream, deliver, debate, and defend to their death! For ALL OF US, if we believe, there is hope harnessed to a promise.
We all suffer. We will all experience side effects—good and bad. Have life events produced a side effect of shame? Has life handed you a dose of doubt? Do you feel hopeless? We can try and tuck these side effects tight in a tomb, sealed by a stone. The stone CAN roll. Your tomb can be emptied.
“Arriving at the tomb they discovered that the huge stone covering the entrance had been rolled aside so they went in to look. But the tomb was empty The body of Jesus was gone! Luke 24: 2-3
Yesterday…
The post office was packed. Most people in line looked down at their phones. Two kind ladies acknowledged me with a smile. An older gentleman at the counter told a funny story (I giggled). Unsure of the box size I needed, I stepped to the counter with my items ready to mail. The pleasant worker provided the right size box and a mailer sticker. “Fill this out at the counter and come back to me for checkout.” One woman was very upset. “It’s not fair that she gets to return because she’s unprepared. There should be a line for those of us who are prepared.” That’s a great idea, I thought to myself. It would be helpful.
Popular prescriptions might produce side effects of cynicism, criticism, jealousy, greed, hate, or comparison.
She continued talking about my unpreparedness and added, “I’m in a hurry because I work with cancer patients.” Loud enough for a few to hear I said, “I’m so thankful for God’s grace,” (and that I wasn’t burning up by that fiery stare–although tears were forming to douse it). One of the kind ladies said, “Isn’t God’s grace wonderful?” Another kind gal gave me a heart symbol with her hands. My heart melted! Smiling, with tears, I thought about humanity, how judgy we can be, and what a gosh darn hurry we’re in all the time. We are not patient creatures. The sweet lady who gave me her “heart” said, “I have lupus. I’m 51. I don’t look sick and it’s a struggle.” Wow. Was she reading my mind? The other lady shared about a friend who has cancer. “I understand,” I shared. “I’m living with it.” The 3 of us formed a circle of compassion. I begged them to give me their two cards to mail so they could leave. They refused! I left there feeling hopeful. But also, a good lesson that I need to be more prepared–I grabbed flat rate boxes on my way out! My heart went out to the lady who had a crusty shell. I’ve been there. She was experiencing side effects.
There are times when we’re not prepared. The unexpected happens. Everybody’s going through something. The loss of a child, sickness, job, or home. Or even happy and joyful times. We all suffer–side effects will surface.
As I strive to manage symptoms and thrive with side effects, I’m reminded that God speaks to us in diverse ways. At times it’s direct and clear (like with Abraham, “Yes, God, I’m here”). Other times he guides us quickly. Sometimes, he grows us silently (Joseph was 17 when he had his first dream—by 30, he went from the pit to the palace, was an interpreter, and showed amazing grace to his brothers).
So many years ago, as he hosted his Last Supper, Jesus KNEW the suffering he’d endure. The horrific side effects of betrayal and a bloody beating led to an excruciating death. The “side effects” of this humanity wouldn’t be worth it to me…but for my Savior. I can’t help but share the side effects of salvation—love, compassion, grace, and hope.
In the 35,000 decisions you might make in a day, which ones will produce positive side effects? For those suffering, I’m so sorry. My prayer is your side effects are eternity-fulfilling, hope-granting, love-giving, soul-soothing, and grace-accepting. You are loved.
Thank you, God, for your miracles. May the side effects of your love and grace spread like a good seed, germinate, …and grow.
Have faith 💚
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Karla, I am always thankful and happy to see you with strength to blog. Praying for you, my sister.
Tangie, that means so much to me. Thank you, sister. I know that you understand these words and live with side effects! You are a blessing! I pray for you too. ❤️🙏
I appreciate your prayers and encouragement.
It’s my blessing. You have been that for me! 💚
Karla – this is honestly one of your best posts! Thank you for sharing the positive side effects of your/our suffering! I too have been blessed by and grateful for them in my own challenges.
Judgement is painful - for both sides – the one being judged and the one who hurts so much they must judge. I know how those eyes brimming with tears over burning cheeks feels – you described it so well! If only we were all so lucky to have a tribe of defenders show up for us every time as you did at the post office.
An every day normal outing turned into a Gospel for all of us. Thank you dear friend. You are loved. Blessings to you this most wonderful week.
Erika—I just wrote a comment and lost it! I hope this makes it to you. First, what a beautiful and heartfelt response; thank you!!
I know that you feel the positive effects of suffering and how close it brings us to our Savior. You live it and show it.
If I lived closer, I’d be in that tribe surrounding you. I’m that gal that wants to hear the stories—I’ll pull up a chair so you can tell me. I’m fortunate that I can “pick and choose” the environment most times. I’m no SO Pollyanna (tee hee) that I believe everyone will be kind, or must be, all the time. I’m not. I’m human. But I sure want to be in the group of empathetic defenders. The world needs more kindness and compassion. I think I could write a story daily from interactions. Some days, I only interact with Finley :-).
Erika, I’m praying for you. When I type a response to everyone, I say a prayer. I have a prayer journal, with names, that I pray over. You have climbed more mountains, physically and metaphorically, than most, my friend. You’re an inspiration. I know what you’re facing is huge—you have my support and friends here will pray too. I love you and wish you a wonderful Easter week. Thank you for being here. 💛
You truly have the most beautiful spirit. I’d like to make the miles between us disappear. Wouldn’t we have a blast!!!
Thank you for being a brilliant light, a caring friend and for your prayers!
Aww, thank you, Erika. We would! But I’ll admit, I’ll be towards the bottom with binoculars watching you at your great heights right now~maybe I’ll get there again! I’ll get us walkie talkies and it would still be closer than it is now!
You’re a light, too, Erika. That’s so sweet to say. I’ll be in Gmail and you have us here praying, dear friend! ❤️🙏🏻💚💕
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Thank you, sweet Sue! I just got your text, too! I can’t wait to hear it. I love you ❤️
My, my, my. Methinks the rude, insensitive lady in the post office needs a dose of sugar to sweeten her attitude a bit. Guess no one ever taught her that patience is a virtue! Could you have been more prepared? Probably. That said, this woman should have been prepared to WAIT on line like everyone else.
But those sweet angels stepped in and spread their kindness around. How great was that! Heartwarming to know nice people do still exist.
Enjoy Easter and all its positive side effects. I hope you’re having an egg hunt for Sweet Miss Finley with dog treats tucked inside! I can tell you this, if Mother Nature doesn’t warm things up, Peter Rabbit’s cotton tail will be a frozen snowball! 🤗
Stay positive. Stay strong. Stay as sweet and loving as you are.
Love to you and Sweet Miss Finley. I think God is very proud of you Karla.
Ginger🦋
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Aw, Ginger. That last line choked me up. THANK YOU. After all the times he rolls his eyes at me, has literally picked me up and moved me, and quite frankly, a good spanking!
Grandma always said you get more flies with honey, Ginger! One lady said exactly as you about being prepared to wait. At a young age I worked at the license bureau—I had a man LUNGE at me (I was a fast typer and had the job of typing up title applications—and sometimes had to say, “I’m sorry, you’re in the wrong line.” Talk about learning human nature young! Then with years of growing thick skin,…well, it’s thinner a bit, like my blood and hair—others can’t SEE,…but I FEEL IT.
I’ve always been taught to think “Positive Intent”. If someone is about to run me over in their car I think, “Surely they’re on their way to an emergency.” Lol. But when my bones hurt, I pretend I hiked too much or swung a golf club or something I shouldn’t have done. I don’t call it denial. I call it good coping skills, lol. God sharpens me, Ginger.
I think you’re an angel, Ginger. I’m happy we’re on this journey together! I want to live as long as you, my Dad, Mom…and John on here!
My communion with Christ has sealed the deal, my friend. As long as he has me here, I want to be HIS hands and feet—for when I’m not, I FAIL!
I have a treatment on Thursday and I’m expecting the best. Easter will be spent with my youngest son and family—in May, I’ll go spend extended time with my oldest and his family, God-willing! I can’t wait! Finn has had some treats tonight. I even had extra play time with her because she’s such a good girl; she hangs right in there with her Momma. Peter Rabbit’s tail didn’t make an appearance this morning (we have a family of rabbits that 2 other neighbors and I “share” yards with—Finn runs out in the morning and they all chase each other around). It was in the 20’s here this morning and Finn’s little tail was nearly frozen too!
I told her you loved us—she “woofed” back the same!! So do I!!!
Please take care, dear Ginger. 💕🐾 I appreciate you so much!
Ahh, those character producing side effects…your blog is filled with things to ponder Karla. I’m glad you have those insights as pain sometimes takes a toll on our being able to “insight”
Gary, thank you for your wisdom, insight, and friendship. You, Cheryl, and Tania remain in my prayers. Always. 🙏🏻
Character producing side effects~yes. I’m being molded hourly.
Often, even in the years of “not knowing”, pain kept my prayer life in proper posture! And with an empathetic soul for others. Then, I was a bit bitter~and pity is pitiful. 🥲 human nature it is.
I’m thankful to God for his grace and wisdom when my insight needs “lasered” with more love.
Karla, what an inspiring blog post, my friend. When I read about the rude lady in the post office, I became a little angry. But, no I thought to myself. I am thankful there were some ladies there who understood and gave you comfort. We never know how our words and facial expressions can hurt or help someone! I love all of your photos. You have a good eye for photography. I love you sweet friend and I am praying for you, always! 🩵🙏🏻💚🙏🏻💛🙏🏻🩷🙏🏻💜🙏🏻💙🙏🏻❤️
Pam, you are precious. Thank you for your kindness and love. When I see my loved ones being treated rudely, it’s difficult. I understand. There was a time in my life I would’ve reacted differently. But still would’ve tried to have a positive outcome in conversation. I just don’t feel like more than a smile (and a prayer) at times. She needed to say it. She ended up leaving~I think that’s best when emotions get that way. I’ve had to do that, or wish I would’ve, at times. I’ve always thought life is lessons. I learn no matter what.
I’m so happy we have this “family” connection here. I love when you visit and I feel like we’re sitting at the Easter table (Woodland setting near the Cottage), sipping tea.
You would’ve been in our circle of compassion! I do think of how my expression and words impact others.
Thank you for your sweet words about the pictures! I’m learning as I go!
I love you dearly and pray for you, Butch, and the entire family as you do for us! 💕❤️💚🙏🏻🙏🏻💛💐❤️🩹🎶
a wonderful post, Karla, I shall be reading this over again to take it all in. Yes, there are always side effects; you can rid yourself of sin, God forgives, but you can’t erase the memories. Sometimes we burnish the good times of a relationship brighter than they were. Rudeness always offends. I remember how angry my friend was when a shop assistant was rude to her daughter who was showing the obvious effects of a brain tumor. Life is such a journey. God gives us strength and we give him Faith and fidelity —
Thank you, John. Your words are wise and thoughtful. I appreciate you so much. It’s almost 6 am here in SW MO and it’s been a beautiful morning of praise, meditation ~for family, you and friends/family here and that kindness and joy can melt hard hearts. I know any change comes from God. We all definitely have our own personalities ~rude is rude~and for those struggling, it can impact them in great ways.
When I’m in pain, I want to hide away~knowing that the worst part of me can spill out. And some, may have been burned so badly only a miracle could mend. I could be bitter, others could be bitter with me. We like to hang on to things in our heart. But I’ve found letting it all go, giving it to God, has allowed me to empty myself of me so I can use the strength you so beautifully shared~”we give him Faith and fidelity.” That’s beautiful, John. I’m so happy we’re hanging in here together on our journeys. 🙏🏻
so am I , Karla ; letting it go, giving it all to God is definitely the best way to go; stay strong like my sunnies in ‘Strong: An Ode’ 🙂
Thank you dear John. I had my treatment day yesterday. I’m here! More sore, achy, tired,…at one time, teary. But I’m HERE! Happy Resurrection weekend, dear friend. I’ll stay strong. We are held in God’s hands! You hang in there too.🙏🏻😊💚
Gratitude, empathy, Godly grit, yes, please. Thinking of you. Always praying, Dear Friend! Much love. ❤️ ♥️❤️
Good morning , sweet sister. I’ve prayed for you. I appreciate you so much. This morning’s Holy Week devotion~Judas taking the money~Jesus already knowing~he knows, doesn’t he? May his grace cover all we reveal and say and love rule in our hearts ~I know you walk and live in this, too. Here we are, Crystal, binding hands and hearts through the battles ~I’m so happy God placed you in my life. Much love.💕 🙏🏻💕
I keep a running list of things I want to remember in the notes on my phone, and this made the list: May his grace cover all we reveal and say and love rule in our hearts.
I’m super thankful for you, Karla. No doubt God ordained our friendship. 🙏🏻💖🙏🏻
Amen, my sister. I’m equally thankful! ❣️🤗🙏
Wonderful Karla. Loved reading about your teachable, reachable heart as a side effect of having given it to Jesus and the community He provided of those similarly effected in the post office line.
Good morning, Jon. I’m so happy you enjoyed this. I’ve been given grace and love and I can’t help but give it back.
Application of truth and knowledge is where the rubber meets the road!
I’m so messy and I love learning! God knows just how to put me in my place~And who he puts all around us! I’m thankful for you!
Karla, thank you for sharing this ordinary moment in a day made extraordinary by living out your faith. Sharing it with us is a testimony that inspires and encourages.
My dad had a similar saying as your grandma. When we said something grumpy or had a crabby attitude he said, “you’ll always catch more flies with honey rather than vinegar.”
I love your attitude and positive side effects. What an amazing “side effect” could be generated if everyone who reads your post prayed for you AND the impatient, irritable woman. God knows her heart and whatever she has or had going on in her life. She may need to meet Jesus or cry out to him while unloading her pains.
Thanks for being you and have a blessed Easter!
Manette, thank you for your wisdom, insight, and incredibly kind words! Your Dad’s words are true. 💕
That stranger has been on my heart. I’ve prayed for her several times. For I know she’s battling things. I think that’s why I felt bad for being a hiccup in her hurriedness! Yet, I think it was a lesson for everyone. I love learning! God knows and understands!
I’ve been in many situations where I’ve had to “diffuse” temperaments ~and I’ve had to have mine doused! I think the reason I shared this particular situation is because I sense that we, (as a society~including ME), lack patience. We expect things to go quick and without interruption. When I left there yesterday, still experiencing side effects, lol, I lifted myself with humor, thinking about my Missouri, the Pony Express and how slow things used to delivered. As much as I’m a dreamer, I’m very much a realist. I don’t expect things to go quick or smooth~but I do expect God to show up HUGE and right in time because he’s done that for me~and I’ll keep giving HIM the glory and praise. I know you do too! I love you and your heart, Manette. Thank you for your prayers and support. It’s encouraging! Love and prayers, my friend 💕🙏🏻💕
Karla I do believe that God has put us in places for a purpose. Sometimes it is so very obvious and other times it is a mystery. Those women in line who lifted your spirit were there on purpose! We are often commissioned by God to brush against others for the sole purpose to remind them that there are angels among us! They were your angels!! And it just might have been that you were an angel to them!! The woman in a hurry just might have prayed for patience – and God is very perverse so if you ask for patience, well, what little patience you have will be tested!! This is Holy Week and my preparations have been ongoing. Prayers continue as I open my heart and sweep away the debris that doesn’t move me closer to Jesus. Mochi is getting ready too (a bath and nails) and I’m going to start the baking and preparations for the meal… Much love to you and Finley!
Val, I have whiplash from nodding so much! Tee hee. Oh my, such truth and wisdom in your words. Thank you!
The woman might have prayed for patience~God exactly sharpens us in unique ways with those requests! That has happened to me.
Your precious words, “We are often commissioned by God to brush against others for the sole purpose to remind them that there are angels among us! They were your angels!!”
These women reminded me of meeting all my WP family at the post office! Having only met a handful of you in person, it seems they were representing the goodness I seek and often find~that there is SO much GOODNESS out there~it overwhelms the negative!
“Sweep away the debris that doesn’t move me close to Jesus.” Val, that’s excellent Spring Cleaning! A speaker recently shared, “closing the door” on things that cause us to enter that room and take our hearts to unwanted places. Several years ago, I called this “pruning” season for many reasons. The things that were killing me spiritually ~choking out my Godly growth. A fig tree with no figs? Then, the diagnosis ~apparently I was fertilized in faith to handle it then.
You get it, Val. “God, thank you for giving me grace so I can give it too!”
I’m praying with you, my friend. I see sweet Mochi all ready! Precious.
Finley really needs a bath!
She and I love you both. I’m so happy you’re here. You sharpen me! 💕❤️🙏🏻💚🐾
A beautiful post Karla, I love your analogy of side affects…
I agree everyone is in too much of a hurry & impatient in the busyness of life, something we really don’t realise until we are forced to stop & see it (often through loss or chronic health conditions).
Indeed God graces all of us, even those who are harressed in life & react unkindly. I loved your answer my friend.
May you have a very blessed Easter & I hope you get to sing, ‘Because He lives, I can face tomorrow’. 😊
Blessings, Jennifer 💝
Oh Karla, you struggle into the public to do your thing and even then you are given something. I remember after being sick for so long the first time, in going back outside among people…and they hadn’t changed a bit…but I had. I had been given so much more empathy and compassion because I now knew what it was like to be in that place.
I was a bit shocked at first, reality being as it was…but my next lesson was to not be like that, and smile a little more, be glad a little more, share a little more…because I knew that this was what I was giving out by being that love. Change the world by changing me first 🤗🥰❤️🙏
And even deeper was understanding that I am in fact being shown a more profound love, by being in a place where I have to just let go and have faith in what He told me…’I am the giver of life’. And for a human as I am, that is very difficult because we have had a lifetime of struggling to ‘hang on’ to that life. It was, and still is, a very powerful meeting. And each day I let go and have only since then given a little prayer of thank you for what I have been given.
Even the fact that I can heal through Spirit, given a love so beautiful, is now finally letting me see the truth behind that love ever here in our hearts. I thought I knew about His love…but it touches us wherever we are. I was so focused on the fact that I could be dying, that I forgot that I was still living. And yes, it is a big thing. But among the many daily encounters His love is touching us…empathy, even for us…compassion, for us too…simply because we have ever been holding a fear that we don’t deserve it.
But how can we ‘know’ unconditional love if we don’t love ourselves first. We only ever give out what we are…and this life…His life He has given us…is teaching us how to do that in each and every step we take. I was blessed in seeing so much and always felt uncomfortable because almost everyone else just had to have hope and faith…until I realized that I had been given a very profound gift…and realize it was unconditional. I could do no other than give it how it was given to me.
We have indeed been given something wonderful and so profound in its understanding. A chance to see and feel that gift of unconditional love. It is there, for all of us. Even in the simplest of things it guides us…even in the mirror it speaks. And that reflection of us, from others, ever asks us to dare its truth and see the beauty underneath…and be free within it.
Happy Easter Karla! Big hugs from down under and may your side effects touch you, so that when you come up the other side you will understand that He is ever there, no matter where you are, and you can truly feel the difference. Jesus gave in a very profound way so that we could see and understand that love, and become it in that understanding. May we all have that inner smile whichever shop we are in, whichever encounter we meet…because He too is with us also.
Enjoy the weekend and the love opened to us kind lady, you and Finnley. Show the world what you found in your journey, as you have above my friend. If that isn’t a healing of hearts I don’t know what is. You share His gift well 🤗🥰🤣❤️🙏
My dear friend, I apologize for the late response. I had a great morning visiting with my Mom and sister. Your response is a beautiful book of wisdom, Mark!
Your experiences have led to such a profound compassion and understanding of fellow “sufferers”. I believe the more we suffer and overcome, the more joy we have! Or perhaps that’s only for believers? I guess some might get bitter at what they battle, are healed, and don’t give credit or live as if it’s a miracle?
This unconditional love does guide us. Even in the simplest of things. Anger can be a great cop-out and excuse. Pain can be, too!
The greatest two commandments are to love God and love others. I’ve loved Easy. I’ve been angry and I’ve hurt others. And Jesus continues to pursue me…he’s chasing us, Mark! And I’m not running anymore.
Happy Easter, my friend, from the Finnster and I. Keep sharing your love and light–through all you’re going through, you amaze me with your positive attitude and unconditional love! Let’s keep hanging in there together, brother!
Love and blessings across the BIG OCEAN…I’m sending Flipper your way to wave a huge HI with his fin! An elephant is standing in the water and he lifts his trunk to say, “Hey, Mark, this is from Finn and Karla”. God placed you in a beautiful spot in his world and we’re all blessed you’re there–even if it is TOO far away. Love, Finn and me 💚🙏🤗🐾🐬✝️
Haha, the mom and baby elephant are still their kind lady, even if their trunks are a little tattered 🤣 And I’m waving at the Flipper now. I actually had a baby one feeding in the shallows here a few weeks ago, it was a delight to watch.
And I have been blessed with what I have been shown Karla, I can see that it all does have a great purpose in showing us that love. And yes, I do get angry or sad at times but only because of the pain I see within it. Then it goes fairly quickly because I can also see its purpose, and yes, even over in the middle east.
We have to trip and stumble…or we won’t see what is within it, find that compassion and empathy that builds that love within us. Jesus gave us that resurrection, we just have to build that love inside us to follow him. I look at this world and I am still so gobsmacked in how it all so beautifully comes together. The many facing the many to touch us exactly how we need to be to see inside ourselves and in doing so, understand that love. None of it down here is wasted, not a drop of those tears or emotions…ever. They show us the way.
And no, we do reach a point where the running serves no purpose but slow us down. The day we stand and face us, we face Jesus too. And the light gets so much brighter, inside and out because of it.
Have a lovely Easter Karla, in remembrance of what we have been given, and strength to go on. Big hugs to you both, and enjoy a little chocolate and the hugs and love that go with it 🤗🥰🤣❤️🙏
Mark, I needed this today! Thank you thank you! “Not a drop of tears or emotions are wasted~they show us the way….the day we stand and face us, we face Jesus, too. “~my friend, that’s powerful and profound!
The trips, stumbles, falls…it builds us. “Jesus gave US that resurrection.” Wow, Mark. Again, profound and poignant!
I will tuck these words in my heart just as I cherish our connection and friendship. And kinship in Christ! ❤️
My friend, yesterday was treatment day. I’m here. More tired and sore ~and I’m going to “rest” in the promises of our Savior and “savor” this celebration time ~allowing my body to heal and my heart to praise!
I can imagine the views you have~thank you for sharing it! I can SEE baby Flipper now and the tattered trunks too 🐘
Mark, what a view we’re going to see together one day! Can you imagine?
Much love from Finn and I. Have a blessed Resurrection weekend celebrating our Risen Savior!🙏🏻💕❤️
And I will have chocolate! I know you will too! I’m being very careful~especially after treatment ~my “friend” I wear “buzzes” me when my glucose levels are wonky! 🤭💕🙏🏻💐❤️🩹🫣
Hang in there Karla…as He did. We are every day receiving a very beautiful gift. Big hugs for the ‘day…week…after the treatment’ kind lady. May the love that you are be that protection. Have a lovely celebration in heart and mind my friend, you and Finn…and a teeny bit of chocolate 🤗🥰🤣❤️🙏
Thank you, my friend! I’m hanging in there. Big hugs and sweet chocolate ~with a BIG GOD and great friends~it’s a win win win! ❤️💕🤗🤗🤗🤗💚🙏🏻🙏🏻
Oh, and the view when we arrive…when I touched ‘unconditional love’ in all its purity up there…there truly is no words kind lady…you are immersed in something so profoundly beautiful. Every piece of love you have ever felt…times a thousand. It is the air you breathe…so to speak…there is no time…anything you think of is instantly there…you don’t have to move, or you can. The main point for me was to just ‘touch’ and get an impression. It impressed me 🤗🥰🤣❤️🙏
Amazing!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
The Godly courage and tenacity that you face life with are inspiring, Karla. While your physical body has its ups and downs, your spirit and soul are thriving.
I enjoyed your post because of the realness you bring to it—the “circle the wagons” faith!!! The comments are also equally encouraging.
God draws closer to those who are hurting, and your story proves it. 🙏More Holy Spirit power to you , sister!!!🤗
David, you are so thoughtful; thank you! “Circle the Wagons”! YES! I remember teaching that term to the 2nd grade and how we used it as a way to “protect” our huddle! Love it!
You’re wisdom and leadership inspire me! Your words, “your spirit and soul are thriving” affirmed something for me–thank you!
I’m so glad we’re on this journey together. God is so good! Isn’t this group amazing here? Can you imagine if we all were to meet?
Uh…Cracker Barrel? Say, the middle of the country? Missouri will do!
More Holy Spirit power to you, too, brother! Happy Easter to you and yours! 🙏🤗❣️✝️
Yes! There are plenty of Cracker Barrel’s along I-44 in the Show Me state, and the interstate goes across the whole way.🤗
Yay! 🤗 I’m sorry I’m late~I had the “t” day (treatment). Have a blessed weekend celebrating our Savior (which I know you do celebrate daily!).
I have to share something that will make you giggle. When I open my pantry, I still think of that post! 🫣🤭 and your precious wife. Fortunately, Finn does NOT rearrange things 🐾🤭
I’ll say both sorry and thank you, Karla. I’ve shown my crusty self in similar situations, letting life’s pressures and anxieties shove my more unpleasant self toward the top of my behavioral heap. If I’m fortunate, my dear wife Karen is there to coax the unintended ogre back down! If I’m alone, I hopefully quickly enough recognize the bluster and sorrys extended seemingly are accepted.
If not, I feel badly quickly and vow to do better for sure …
Happy Easter to you, my friend.
Mark, you are such a good-hearted human and soul! I’ve been there too, my friend. I’ve been crusty and icky…thinking only of myself. Your wife is so precious! It’s awesome when we have someone that can “coax” us (YOU Ogre–lol–Mark, I just can’t ‘picture’ you as Shrek!).
I’m so glad we’re human together! And for you and Karen! You’re a blessing!
Happy Easter to your whole tribe, dear friend. I appreciate you!
Thank you for this beautiful reminder. “We all suffer–side effects will surface.” ❤️
You’re welcome. Kelley, thank you for being here and supporting me (even when you don’t know you do!). Much love and prayers, my friend. ❣️🙏
Praise God for those eternal side effects of this holiest of weeks. I know they have profoundly shaped my life and will continue to shape it forever. I love the story of your post office encounter. Your compassionate response to the judgy lady shows that you know her anger springs from a place of unresolved pain in her life. Blessings to you for continuing to bring us stories of hope and God’s mercy, Karla. CELEBRATE LIFE!
Happy Holiest of weeks, Russell. I appreciate you so much! It’s these daily encounters that sharpen my soul skills–put me to the test of God’s character traits, and keep me humble, Russell. I’m a nobody trying to tell everybody about a SOMEBODY who saved my soul. I’ve been on both sides. And I’m so thankful for God’s grace!
May God bless you and Joan! I can only imagine the words of wisdom you could write about this week and the ways our King has worked in your lives. I celebrate with you! God bless you! You’re such a support!
Thank you. Challenge accepted!
You’re welcome, my friend!!!!
“There should be a line for those of us who are prepared.” . I submit to you that I believe that line, that annoying woman was talking about, would be empty if we relied on the truth. We are never fully prepared. We think we are. We truly believe we are. And then life happens. One moment we might feel that everything is as it should be and one second later the world does a 180. We are never fully prepared. What we need to be is compassionate, understanding and tolerant. We really are in this together.
Your response makes me ponder. That’s so wise, Pam. “We are never fully prepared.” Just knowing ME, I’d think I was prepared and would halt that line for some reason.
You have great insight, my friend. The 180’s are tests–and many times we find out we’re not prepared. “What we need to be is compassionate, understanding, and tolerant. We really are in this together.” How poignant and perfect. It seems simple, doesn’t it, Pam?
I’m prepared for heaven, Pam. I’m prepared for the unthinkable to happen or things to NOT go according to plan! 🙂
I’m so thankful for you. You add so much to my life and this family we have here. God bless you!
Holding you in my heart beautiful Karla. 💖 I have a candle lit for you. Love you. 🌷
That’s so precious to me, Michele. That touches my heart. Thank you so much. I love you. ❣️🙏🎶🤗
Hearts and spirits connected. 💕🕯️🤗
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I love the photos. Something like that would never happen at my PO. I believe very strongly that we need to give each other grace whenever possible, not that I always succeed in that. 🤣
Thank you, MAK! I KNEW you’d love these photos. At my former PO that wouldn’t have happened. Grace is a beautiful thing! I’m not always good at it, either. But there’s grace for that, too. Finn and I send BIG LOVE and hugs to you. You’re with us in Spirit so much.❣️💗🐾🐾🐾 all 3 of you
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I love you take on “side effects!” And how you managed to be civil to the woman who was so rude to you. You’re right, we don’t know what she was dealing with and why she was that way. But those other women you connected with in line were certainly gifts! Thanks for sharing, and have a very happy and blessed Easter!
Thank you, Ann. You’re such a thoughtful and kind friend.
I always think of what others are going through. I really need to just walk away, zip it, and pray. Some days it’s hard. But we’re all human!
Yesterday, at my blood draw, oncology visit, and at infusion center, my floating nurse was “Trinity”. Last time it was “Faith” and the nurse who gives me injection is named Grace. Ann, I can’t make this up! I cried when my nurse, Kayla, asked, “Can I pray with you before you go down to infusion center?” Oh my…yes!!
Grace shared with me she’s pregnant and that she reads my blog. 😭 I told her about Trinity and Faith. Then my sweet dietician, Lydia, walked in. I told a gal who has cancer, Jessica, that God has us! We had a huge service going on in the infusion center! The Spirit was oozing like all the treatments through the veins!
I’m tired, sore, and achy. I’ve been teary. Because of side effects. But the side effects of these amazing humans, and the friendship, love, and prayers from you and everyone here (more amazing humans!), comfort me and give me hope.
May you and your precious family be comforted and have a blessed Resurrection weekend. 🙏🏻❤️💕 I appreciate you, Ann.
Oh, Karla, you have no idea how much I appreciate you!! You give so much hope and inspiration, even while dealing with so much pain. God truly is with you in your treatments, and that makes me happy. It’s okay to be sore, tired and even crabby…that’s what makes you human. What makes you amazing is that you use it to help others who are also struggling. And that is faith personified!
That’s so sweet, Ann. 🥹 thank you!!!!!
I love the concept of positive side effects!
Thank you, Geoff! I appreciate you!
A post office so often sends some folk into hulk smash mode sadly. I love the idea that every moment, even those post office moments are part of God’s plan fabric. Another chance to do the best we can to shine and be a light for others. You do that ❤️
Thank you, dear friend. Such wise words! I appreciate you so much.
I think of the days, when I was very young, that I worked at the license bureau! Oh boy! “Hulk smash mode” (lol love that) can be found there, too!
“God’s plan fabric” ( wonderful words) is always ultimately woven!
You’re such light to me, too. Often I think of you and what you’ve gone through. It keeps me filled with gratitude ~and I respect you and appreciate how you give us encouragement. Many hugs to you and Hawklad.❤️💕🙏🏻 particularly these special times of the year
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❤️ thank you, sweet Jennie. I’m sorry I haven’t been around. I hope YOU and yours have a wonderful Easter! I appreciate you so much!❤️🐰🙏🏻 🌈
No apologies! Happy Easter to you, Karla.
Thank you, Jennie ❤️💕❤️
You are very welcome, Karla! 😍
Hi, Karla. You stirred up some great thinking in your post and among your readers. Hat tip to ya! It is true, nothing happens to us while our God is looking the other way. Everything, and yes, every rude or impatient person is in our path according to the will of our Father, who intends to work His will in us and if possible, in them. No sorrow need ever be wasted, unless we choose the wasting.
Great post! Our God moved you to move many.
All the best to you and the Finley! Rascal sends his best. He is anxious for the snow to be gone so he can get seriously muddy!
Tim, it’s so good to “see” you. Thank you so much. I consider you a mentor in my walk; I appreciate your thoughts and insight!
“…nothing happens to us while our God is looking the other way…No sorrow need ever be wasted, unless we choose the wasting.” Powerful!
Yesterday, nurses Trinity and Grace were huge parts of my big day. Faith was the name of the nurse several weeks ago! Nurse Kayla prayed with me and so many pray already. I approached a young lady with cancer, Jessica, at the infusion center to tell her I’d pray for her. And announced to her, and the other 3 😂🤭 that God has us! The Spirit was oozing through this place just like the medicine.
After that appt, my physical energy dipped (and is quite icky), but my heart and spirit are clinging to the Spirit,dear friend.
My Holy Week studies have moved me. Today, GOOD Friday (it was so hard on Jesus! My heart breaks for all he endured!) and then, the curtain tore, soon, a stone-rolling day and Resurrection that I keep celebrating day in, day out,….he’s resurrected us! I tear up typing it.
Each season he brings upon us gives me reasons to celebrate ~even if some hurt.
I’ll be happy to celebrate with family~and soon, to put on hiking boots again and get out to praise him in nature. I can see the forest from the trees, Tim. I can also focus on the goodness of the trees directly in my path knowing that in the whole big scheme, forest, and …world, HE pursues me just as HE pursues you and all of us that choose him as Lord.
I can’t think of anything better than that. ❤️🙏🏻
Rascal, Finn and I are so happy you two made it back from your big adventures~and a lot of mud sounds fun! Lol 😂
God bless you both. Thank you for being my “iron”, prayer warrior, and adventure-seeking partner in the great Pursuit!
Happy Easter to you and your loving family dear friend 🌹🙏😘🐣 may this season brings lot of love,
Peace and happiness 👌👍🏻🌹sweet blessings my precious friend 💕💐
Happy Easter my dear friend. Wow, what a powerful message. We all deal with hurriedness and people casually slinging their words at others. This is one of the reasons I have turned my life to slow down. The side effect of her impatience and her callas way of speaking I’m sure was caused by her own self not being prepared, not for the post office line, but for life. She thinks that she is prepared but she’s preparing in all the wrong directions. I love how you reacted and had the support of others who are prepared as you. Anyway, excellent post. Lisa
Lisa, I always appreciate your perspective and thoughts. You are so kind and precious to me. Your comment about not being prepared for life. Wow. That hit straight to the heart. It made me rethink this situation in a way I hadn’t before—I guess I WAS prepared in my heart for how to handle it. It’s not like I haven’t had these situations before? But yet, my heart is more fragile or perhaps my view about life, in general, has been a bit jaded since the year we locked down. Fear (which I dislike!) made us hide and ultimately, created dissension in some ways. Cell phones (as great as they are!) haven’t helped us in communicating with one another IN PERSON. I experience all of this in many ways “out and about” in public. Just as God gives me grace, I will always give it! I’ve learned to walk away, close a door, and/or surround myself around people who share the same beliefs, values, and missions. This way the “iron sharpening iron” helps me handle going into my mission field daily! I have to spread the goodness; even in the midst of the not-so-good. Jesus never promised it would be easy. Look what he went through! Life is lessons and I know I learn daily. I still wonder and pray for her—this many days later! Thank you for your huge role in my returning to writing. I appreciate you. Love, Karla
Thank you for the beautiful words and photographs. God’s creation always has a way of bringing peace during difficult times.
Rachel, that is so kind. I appreciate you so much! What a precious comment! It’s so true! Nature is so healing. I’m sorry I haven’t been by your place lately, my friend. God bless you! 💛
Blessings to you, friend 🧡
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“For ALL OF US, if we believe, there is hope harnessed to a promise.” Yes! And this is why we press on, Karla — and why you remind us to — because “your side effects are eternity-fulfilling, hope-granting, love-giving, soul-soothing, and grace-accepting.” And you too are loved.
Aww, Mitch. Thank you, dear friend. You’re such an encouragement and inspiration to me. I feel the love of our God and all of you. Everything is worth it. God bless you!
Dearest Karla,
Thanks for being the side effect that is balm for the soul, that holds the world with faith, a smile, kindness, a giving heart, open, loving, all encompassing with your compassion. You are an inspiration and an example of faith in action while you continue to teach on the cross to deliver us from the mind and human frailties that try to contain us an keep us down. I am in awe of your spirit and perseverance as you walk in the hands of compassion and God.
Sending you a big hug and love my dearest friend. You are always in my heart and soul. 💓💓💓
Cindy, your words are so heartfelt and thoughtful. Thank you for your unwavering love and support. I’m SO Messy, my friend. It’s humbling to hear these words. I want to be an example–I haven’t always! I make mistakes. But I can’t help but share how God is so graceful and that I must be that way, too. Truly, I give HIM all the glory. My grit and perseverance come from falling flat on my faith over and over. After writing this I had some tough days. Many I know were having similar days. That big bully Satan (as Mama Kathy says) tries his best to get us when we’re down or lead us down the wrong path. But has already been defeated! Easter came and it was amazing. I want to live like the resurrected person I chose to be when I chose Jesus! He did that for US. He did that for YOU. I want to stay open and loving. To do that, I will “feel all the feels”, C. There’s nothing to hide behind or run from. Nothing to try and change or “do over”. I’m just me. And I know what I used to be. I’m so thankful to God for all that I am and all that I will be. I’m still a WIP! Lol. You’re an example and inspiration to me too, Cindy. Despite the challenges, you give us reasons to say FRI-YAY! And HOORAY! I want to keep holding the world in faith and spreading it like glitter (so much, it sticks!). Thank you for walking alongside me and being patient when I’m absent. Thank you for loving Finn and me. We love you, too. 💗💚❣️
you are an ice cream Sunday kinda messy with a cherry on top with your unwavering faith and that is everything. Life can come down hard and it sounds like you are back in the land of the living putting your trust and faith where it belongs. I have a client who had lung cancer and they removed a lung 7 years ago and when my book came out, I didn’t recognize her at our online launch party as she got Covid in Amsterdam etc. She is now doing so well and in a exercise group and they don’t know why she is there as she is rockin it. I am working her hard and we connect with spirit through, breathing, tai chi, meditation etc and she is hiking up a storm. And then like you when she gets down, she gets up again. I am in awe and you give me (as does she) the courage to carry on. Thank you for your kind appreciation and honor of being someone that inspires you on our Yayyyyy I made it through the day times and of course always Fun Fri-Yayyyyyys❣️💓
Love this “I want to keep holding the world in faith and spreading it like glitter (so much, it sticks!).” It’s stickin honey Godspeed child! Aww thanks for loving me and kiss that sweet boy for me and hugs to you too, my love💓
Cindy, your client is amazing! She’s an inspiration to me. I’ve met SO MANY who have overcome huge obstacles–beating the odds with faith and sticking it to the statistics because of our HUGE GOD! Wow! I want to hike again–I mean, REALLY hike. C’mon bones. I’m being kind to myself. Giving myself grace. I’m stretching, getting in cardio (light walking), and my “hiking” has a few MISSOURI hills (not mountains–yet, mountains to me?). You’re a treasure for us and our clients. Deep breathing, meditation, and definitely, my best thing–going to the Lord in prayer, walking close with my Creator, communing with the Spirit–it’s all miraculous, Cindy. I’m in a marathon and have been told that many times. There are days I’m tired and worn out. Yet, with all the above, I’m able to keep moving forward. WE ALL have challenges. I’m not special. I was just given this rare “gift” to sharpen my faith more–and so that others can see God working through me. I think it’s a win! “It’s stickin’ honey…” aww. We love you!! Thank you for lifting me! ❣️💚❣️
I know she really is and this is where life’s work in action shows up in walking the walk and the talk every day! We just gotta stay present in the bleakest of ties and make adjustment’s. I’m with you right now as I have my own moments to be present too different yet the same dance. I love that.. sharpen my faith more.
Amen to that my sweet honey child. Love you too my dearest friend💓
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Beautiful share from the heart, as I finally got my diagnosis 2 weeks ago at age 50 that put all of my life’s ills into perspective. It has a name, but no cure. I was grateful to not feel like E.T anymore. I am grateful to be beginning a class on Cancer Survivors 101 via Zoom tomorrow. It’s time to heal, and my cup runneth over. It is always thy will not mine. I have to stay out of the way of the brewing process so my cup will be just right. God’s mercies are always beautiful even though sometimes we can see the beauty in them. We just have to open our eyes to the willingness to see past the world. I am called to be in and not of this world. I want to be light, and it’s not always easy to be a light in a world full of people ready to flip the breaker. Thank you for your share! Keep on keeping on my friend! We live for Him! That is where I draw my hope at the cross where all can be lost!! Amen!! 🙏🏻 ☀️🥰🤠
Amen, Lisa! Say it louder to the people in the back! 🙂 Golly, you’re an inspiration, my friend! THANK YOU for sharing YOUR story. Before I was diagnosed, I knew what you were battling. I had health issues for years (apparently this has been growing for approximately 10 years).
I’m SO HAPPY that your cup is running over! To go from planning a funeral, to a “wasn’t supposed to happen” surgery, to monthly treatments–I’M LIVING. It’s not easy; but knowing is half the battle! I did feel like an E.T. too, Lisa. Oh, my heart is hugging yours. I understand. I understand. I understand.
In 30 minutes I’ll meet with my amazing Cancer Support Group. They are based out of Los Angeles–up to 40 of us might be on there together. All of us have this rare (E.T. 😉 cancer. Without them I don’t know where I’d be. Because of them, I was led to the National Cancer Institute.
I’ll join you in praising God for not GIVING UP–FIGHTING WITH FAITH–IN FAITH–and letting it go and surrendering it all to him. No matter what!
C.S. Lewis identified Christianity as not “belonging” to this world–and even moreso–JESUS said it! I’ve never felt like I “belonged”. I’m happy to be a weirdo, Lisa. LOL
You are a breath of fresh air and a thriver! I stand with you! I celebrate with you! I love you!
I’m laying it all at the cross! THANK YOU for being you and an inspiration to me and so many.
Lisa, my email is finleyriverpublishing@gmail.com. My cancer has no cure; but is treatable. I have other “hiccups” that do not help this. I’d be happy to be a support for you on your rare walk just as you are for me. Much love, sister. 💛❤️💕❣️💚🙏
I go back to the DC talk days of being a “Jesus Freak”. I don’t want to hide in a crowd! Thank you for sharing your journey with such raw honesty! I will praise Him all the days of my life, even on my worst day I can find a list mountains high to be grateful for.
I found my group through the American Cancer Society, and my first Zoom meeting is tomorrow. I am excited because I reached a bottom in my own mental health that I knew it was time. God is so faithful to lead the way if we are willing to do the footwork.
When I got back on WordPress you were the first person I looked up. I read “hope” and so so so much more in your blog! I read you belong to the greatest physician of all time!! Thank you for sharing, thank you taking time to comment back! Blessings for a beautiful day!! May the sunlight of the His spirit shine brightly in your heart and home this very moment 🙏🏻☀️💋
Lisa, I feel the love, encouragement, and hope in your words!
The Spirit of God oozes through you and that is killing those cancer cells! I know it’s killing mine 😉 ❤️
You’re an inspiration to me! Like you, I don’t want to hide in a crowd! Your light is shining~it brightens me and blasts through the darkness of dread and doubt!
I’m thinking of you and your group right now. I had my meeting yesterday~I don’t know where I’d be without this group!
My friend, I understand about the mental low. When you know, you know. Being able to acknowledge it and make a plan is huge! I was there, too. The mountain high lists of blessings bring comfort!
I’ll stand with you sister ~strong in faith in our Christ~the Greatest Physician indeed!
Thank you for being here, praying for me, and cheerleading me on! How sweet you looked me up. That means so much to me! I’ve missed you during your time away. There will be times I’m absent (due to treatments or needing a break), but I’ll always support you in prayers and love. ❤️
Blessings sweet Lisa! I can’t wait to hear about your time with your group. ❤️💚🥰🙏🏻💕 love you, sister. 🙌🏻🙏🏻
Karla, you leave me speechless with your tender and compassionate words. I love every individual letter you’ve woven together in this post, as it speaks deeply to my heart. I know it was divine intervention to read it weeks after you’ve written it…the “appointed time, in His time” right? Thank you is all I can muster together. Thank you for simply being you and spilling out all over our human hearts His sweetness made present through you. I adore you & your perpetual kindness.
Dawn, your words pierce my heart. I just wrote to you about God’s timing~and then read this.
You are so kind and thoughtful. My heart is spilling over with compassion and gratitude.
I adore you too, sister. I appreciate you! ♥️❤️🙏🏻💕
Many thanks Karla for sharing this testament and living witness of God’s grace and peace at work in our lives. I treasure the positive reactions and support others expressed while waiting in line. They were quietly paying forward the grace received from the One who is the ultimate source of our Father’s love.
It’s my blessing, Richard. I feel as you do. It was so precious how it unfolded from the Spirit~the room was changed. I still think of her and wish I could see her again, knowing we all have those moments and wonder how it might be different? Or maybe not. But I’m still curious. God’s love wins every time. I appreciate you!