Meaningful Maintenance

We don’t wait for our car engine to seize before checking the oil, yet so often, we wait until our bodies are exhausted and our spirits are dry before we think about care. Real upkeep isn’t an emergency repair—it’s meaningful maintenance.

It sounded like that for many months: bzzzzz-rrrrr-bzzzz. But it got louder when I accelerated. It was a heavy, deep sound. If it were too bad, a check engine light would appear, right? If I ignored it, the effects could be disastrous! Several potential causes came to mind. I reached out to a dear friend. Another friend drove my car to see what she could hear! It was agreed the car needed service. It wasn’t a surprise that I’d have to cram my car’s diagnostic checkup along with my body’s—and precious family member’s— “tune-ups.”

All of this is part of living life on Earth. These motley meaningful maintenance trips matter.

One day later…

After two hours in the waiting room, the bubbly service gal reappeared to tell me it would be about another hour. Well, 90 minutes later, I left with a costly repair estimate. I felt my own wear and tear while driving home on my body’s empty tank. My alignment was off.

Decisions needed to be made. But first, my own alignment needed to be repaired.

“Jesus, I give you everyone and everything.” Pause. Pray. Praise. Eat.

After refueling my body and finding my groove with God in me, plans were made for how to move forward. Well, within two days, those plans changed after multiple “warning” signs flashed in my mind about cost, time, and my own meaningful maintenance. Thanks to another friend, I successfully booked an appointment at another place for one-quarter of the price. Hallelujah!

Our intentional routines keep us running smoothly. I’m trying to prevent as much rust as possible before burnout happens. And if we do get a warning light, will we ignore it or try to brush it off before our cars or bodies grind to a halt?

Pressure changes, tune-ups, fuel, friction, wear, and tear.

Two days later…

My body’s tank was empty again. I cried as I walked into the cancer center. Tearfully, I waited, knowing my arm and veins would soon hurt even more. Sleep had been missing from my maintenance. The longer I sat the more “aligned” my heart became. “Jesus, YOU are my strength and refuge,” I said in my heart. I watched others walking in. The beautiful picture of one of my favorite hiking areas reminded me that I once hiked that! The couple across from me reminded me of my precious parents. Another family walked out that had brought lunch to someone. My friend, who drew my blood, came out to encourage me. We hugged with happy tears.

As I was “parked” in that maintenance garage, Christ re-calibrated me.

Without meaningful maintenance, my body, mind, and soul will grind to a halt. The impacts of the treatments over the years have caused other parts of my physical vehicle to begin showing maintenance issues. It’s important that I find ways to make it ALL…meaningful. Even in the suffering or hard parts. Even IF I address upkeep, things might (or WILL) break down. With each new level of challenges or suffering moments, I’m gaining momentum. Maybe not physically, but oh, my soul, is showing spiritual stamina. Even after the tears and clearing the clutter. After the bleeding and nights of insomnia I can still say “MY ANCHOR IS STEADY!”

The Holy Spirit gives me warning lights (sometimes BLINDING!). Without parking myself in the garage, though, I can’t recalibrate or stay aligned with the truth. If we only deal with our souls when we hit a crisis, we spend all our energy on road service instead of smooth traveling!

Just as we wouldn’t expect our vehicles to run endlessly without some routine service, let’s not treat our own lives like we will drive thousands of miles on dry tanks. What fuels your faith? What keeps you moving? As for me, my friends, when I’m in my “quietude” and in prayer, without the noise of the world, I have the Holy Spirit fine tune me. The friction stops. And I can say, I count IT ALL JOY. For my MASTER provides the most meaningful maintenance. There’s no warranty on what he gave me for FREE. It’s good for…eternity!

WITH MUCH GRATITUDE I have to thank ALL who diagnose and repair everything that makes life so much easier. Where would we be without the trades? I love fixing things. But there is no way I can crawl under a car or begin to understand what it would take to replace a catalytic converter. As much as I love learning, there are things I physically can’t do. In this record heat, our maintenance worker showed up to check on the noise coming from my air conditioning unit. He shared of an amputee whose house, up the road, is flooded. My heart sank thinking of the devastation SO MANY experience. From fires to floods. Who is addressing the clean-up? The aftermath? Yes, it’s much easier to maintain than to repair. We can maintain and things will STILL break. I live in constant gratitude. Thank you to those who give up time, labor, and resources to help others!

No matter how many miles we have left-or how many breakdowns & repairs or smooth miles & memories-we have a choice. Are you living with a lifetime warranty of hope and faith?

Keep fueling faith–hang on to hope. Friends, you are loved.

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Stifling Start

Summer is off to a stifling start? “What a life!” the almost-five-year-old chimed, her voice full of wonder as she leaned against her dad in a kayak drifting across the cool waters of an Alaskan lake. Nearby, her seven-year-old birthday brother relaxed in a child-sized kayak, stretched out and happily being pulled along by their dad. Meanwhile, near Kansas City, a six-year-old was having a blast in the community pool. My three adorable little grands are starting summer spectacularly. They all make me giggle—three birthdays in June, July, and August—my sensational stairsteps. No stifling starts!

Meanwhile in Missouri…



I started to feel stifled.

Not just because of humidity. Medical issues, appointments, digestion?
Because my back and bones ache?
The heat and I don’t get along. Cancer knows exactly where I stand with it.

Humidity, we need to talk.


When do you feel stifled? There are seasons when I feel trapped. Sickness strikes. Some days, I feel isolated because my body aches too much to move. I feel stifled because I can’t give back what I feel others give to me. Suffocated by self-pity? Selfishness? Sadness? Solitude? I’m in time-out because of treatments. Some days, I’m just miserable—and I don’t have it in me to make it known. Because…
I’ll never know real oppression.
A young mother lost her battle to brain cancer, leaving behind two young sons and a grieving family.
And I…complain?


Stifled?
No. I’m merely sidelined for now.
In silence, I savor.
In song, I praise.
In rest, I recuperate and remember—

ALL HE HAS BROUGHT ME THROUGH.
 


You might be surfing, swimming, or lying on a beach,
Or working two jobs with basic needs out of reach.
You may be lying in a hospital, facing the unknown,
Or watching a loved one reach a milestone.
Maybe you’re shopping, hoping to impress,
Or feeling stifled, suffocated, even depressed.
Hearing someone say, “You should just smile,”
May help for a moment—but only a while.
It takes much more than words like that;
True change must reach the soul deep.
Find the true Source of life
For your heart to hold and keep.
No matter the season—
the hot, rainy, or cold—
Your heart won’t stay stifled;
He’ll be your stronghold.
With trust and faith,
giving Him your all,
He’ll free your breath
as you answer His call!
K.L. Hale

Have hope, sweet friends. Keep the faith. You are loved.🧡

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Ideal Independence

 As we approach our nation’s America 250 milestone, I find myself reflecting on what ideal independence really looks like—not just for a country, but for the heart and the home.

History proves that declaring independence and achieving it are two entirely different milestones.

Historical Heritage

Historically, many have lost their independence in our country—from our first native settlers, to those enslaved, and to those dependent on others for freedom. Our independence comes at a cost. Good and bad intentions might drive the need for liberty, just as those same intentions are often forced upon others who never wanted to lose their freedom in the first place.

But a declaration is merely the first step. As the National Constitution Center notes, true independence wasn’t legally recognized by Great Britain until the Treaty of Paris was signed seven long years later September 3, 1783.

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Divine Dependence

 My independence is dictated by my health—even more so with each passing year. The reality is I will have improvements and limitations. Setbacks and successes. My independence will fluctuate with these inevitable ups and downs.

Shifting from self-reliance to completely trusting God through every situation has proven that being dependent ON HIM is how I continue to find joy in the juggling of day-to-day activities.

If you know this one true Source, you understand.

A doctor told my dad last summer that the best way to stay independent is to ask for help. It makes me wonder:

  • How often do we ask others (or Google) before we ask God?
  • Do we spend alone time with Him to refill and refuel?
  • Do we practice the patterns that propel peace?

If there’s no time with our Creator how can you experience true freedom? INDEPENDENCY becomes the ability to hold truth tightly and worldly things loosely–all because of DEPENDENCY on Him!

Personal Preservation

When I think about kids, I smile. I have memories of my own boys and students who felt they weren’t given enough independence at times. And maybe too much at other times. It’s a balance!

It makes me wonder: Will we use our history—both personal and patriotic—to teach them how that independence (freedom!) was gained? Or will we simply “skate” over the truth and throw another burger on the grill?

I DO want to celebrate the freedom and faith we enjoy, recognizing that I did absolutely nothing to achieve them. For that, I am incredibly humbled. What if we actively taught and modeled to children the responsibilities and respect that come with these freedoms?

Looking ahead …thirty, forty, or fifty years down the road, how will we honor our own independence?

  • Will we lose the faith and resilience it took to get there?
  • Do we hold so tightly to our self-reliance that we block the blessings of faith, family, friends, and community?
  • What are we fighting to preserve?
  • What are the core pieces of our inner freedom we refuse to let go?

We live in a world that constantly tries to “self-protect”—from future domes to our own homes, whether we are looking at computer screen or physically seen.If your independence begins to fade, to whom will you turn?

We have a huge God who loves us completely. He is longing for us to find Him. When all else is lost, He will forever be the ultimate treasure. True liberty—living fully liberated—is ultimately found in complete dependence on the only One who is everlasting and true.

Do you know how loved you are?

Happy July, precious friends. Keep the faith. ❣️


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