~”Savor the Spirit”~a tribute to Laura Ingalls Wilder

Obsession might be too strong of a word to describe my affection of the “Little House” series. As a little girl, I recall vividly listening to a teacher read from “Little House in the Big Woods”. Naturally my mind would transport me to the setting. And to my delight, the books inspired the T.V. show in the 70’s.

The chapter, Winter Days and Winter Nights, describes the harshness the family endured (but oh, the fun too!) And Christmas, although the Ingalls girls received very little, was my favorite part. I longed to make “sugar snow” and candy just she did. And then spring time came…and summer soon followed.

“She was glad that the cozy house, and Pa and Ma and the firelight and the music, were now. They could not be forgotten, she thought, because now is now. It can never be a long time ago.”

Laura Ingalls Wilder

Laura so eloquently, and simply, shared her rich memories of family, faith, and perseverance…they were pioneers. Could you imagine that life today? Yes, many have experienced failure and loss. Oh to embody the grit and strength of those before us~the ones that made “something out of nothing”. Wouldn’t we have a more sustainable and worthy existence? Her life evokes inspiration. The simplicity, coupled with the complexity of overcoming the extremities of daily living, is truly an oxymoron~one that I shared with many elementary-aged students while teaching. During my Westward Expansion units a transformation would take place. Together, the students and I, would embark on our mission to settle and make a “home”. The students were delighted to make homemade butter and pretend we were pioneers. And this narrative of a young girl captured the essence of the pioneering “spirit”. The “spirit” of the pioneer is what I wish to capture in my own life.

Laura Elizabeth Ingalls was born February 7, 1867 in the cabin she described in “Little House in the Big Woods” (located just outside of Pepin, Wisconsin). After a move to Kansas two years later, and experiencing a wheat crop loss, the family journeyed back to the Big Woods. Despite the constant mislays, the family forged ahead. Many of you might be familiar with the town, Walnut Grove (particularly girls of the 70’s 😊).

The Ingalls family settled in Minnesota and Laura described their first year in a dugout in On the Banks of Plum Creek. After two years, Pa sold the Plum Creek Farm he built and he “tried his hand” at hotel management in Burr Oak, Iowa. A year later, unsuccessful, they left Iowa and returned to Walnut Grove. Another two years found the family in the Dakota Territory. Pa filed a homestead claim near De Smet.

Laura began her teaching career in 1883~ and while boarding with a family, is driven by Almanzo Wilder on weekends. They marry in 1885 and a daughter, Rose, is born in 1886. Sadly, they lost a baby boy 3 years later. Laura and Almanzo leave South Dakota (Dakota Territory officially became two states in 1889) for Minnesota and then Florida to seek health benefits for “Manly” (a.k.a. Almanzo), who had a stroke after he and Laura had contracted diphtheria. In 1892 they returned to De Smet, South Dakota.

It was 1894 and the trio traveled to Mansfield, Missouri. Upon buying a 40 acre farm and naming their homestead, Rocky Ridge, The Wilder family, settled at their final home.

Laura became a columnist and editor for the Missouri Ruralist in 1911. She began writing her Little House books in the 1930’s and 40’s and published her first book at 65 years old. At the age of 90, Laura died on February 10th, 1957 (Almanzo had passed away 8 years earlier at 92). Both are buried at the Mansfield Cemetery in Missouri.

Have you ever thought of completing a timeline of history for YOUR LIFE? Check out Laura’s:
  • 1st working phonograph (thank you, Mr. Edison)
  • 1st hand powered dishwasher
  • the invention of radio (thank you, Mr. Marconi)
  • Wright Brothers first flight
  • Einstein published his theory of relativity
  • WWI
  • 19th Amendment
  • Discovery of penicillin
  • Great Depression
  • WWII, D-Day, and V-E Day
  • 1st microwave oven
  • Korean War
Laura died 13 years before I was born. She truly understood how to “live in the moment of now”. How I wish I could have sat with her over a cup of coffee~to sip her memories and enjoy the taste of life she encouraged her readers to savor.

Thick Truth

The year was 1970-something. My twin sister and I were at our Grandparents’ in rural SW Missouri.   Grandpa and Grandma Hale sold mobile homes and managed a gas station next door.   The smells of the new fabrication of the homes brought tears to my eyes. As does the time we were painting our nails. 

One of us left a stain on Grandma’s leather ottoman. “Girls, I don’t know which of you did this, but God knows. “she said.  And one of us (I’m sure we’d each blame the other 😉) replied, “Yes, but Grandma, he isn’t going to tell you.” Grandma never knew the truth. God does.  

Isn’t it funny what comes out of “the mouths of babes”?  There was a time a 4-year-old was visiting the school office with his Momma.   Staring at me with the cutest beady blue eyes he declared (boomingly) “You have a creepy face!”  Gulp. The secretaries fell over laughing.   Immediately I started apologizing for the disgusting face I must have been displaying.  What just happened?  Immediately my level of self-efficacy dropped over the statement he made.  I likened it to the time a 2nd grade student announced that my belt and my shoes did not match (she became a one-time reigning Miss Missouri Teen USA and is now a teacher). She continued critiquing my outfits the entirety of the school year (my little sense of fashion apparently began around 1992).    After 14 years with elementary aged students I had grown some tough skin.  Eight years with middle-school and I was on my way to developing my new chill factor. Or so I thought. 

The truth is….well, ….truth hurts.  And you wouldn’t be telling the truth if you denied it. 😉  It’s easy as humans to take everything personally.  Oh, the vanity!  We think everything is about us.  Even though my skin is physically becoming thinner, my psyche needs to remain thick. To be easily offended thins my skin even further.   Perhaps insecurity causes one to be offensive (this has been my own personal experience). Shame, guilt, and pride-a few more nasty emotions I’ve had-can all wreak havoc on a self-image.

There will be many opportunities to become offended (note-you will be the offender too at times).  It seems that our world is becoming way too offended.   Perhaps we are becoming an “all about me” society?  

We have power to control our reactions.  What we think truly affects us both physically and emotionally.  This world offers plenty of toxicity-in words, actions, and thoughts.   Just taking a glimpse at the actions of adults on the campaign trails is evidence of how leaders can be so offended and/or offensive.  It’s everywhere! 

Last week I had the privilege of learning from Dr. Caroline Leaf.  Dr. Leaf is a communication pathologist and audiologist who has worked in the area of cognitive neuroscience since 1985.  In her book, Switch on your Brain, Dr. Leaf shares “We have the unique opportunity to assess our thoughts and their impact and choose to connect to the vine that is Christ (John 15:1-5)-to restore growth and prune off the branches of toxic thinking.” (45). 

Our minds control our thoughts which control our brain to determine how we will react. How do we gain control of our own minds, thoughts, and feelings?  How does all of this relate to the title of my post Thick Truth?  WE have the power to direct our thinking.   “Your mind is the most powerful thing in the universe after God.  Although we cannot control the events and circumstances of life, we can control our reaction” (Leaf 25). 

Friends, we have a choice.  Each day we can choose to not be a victimto overcome the feelings of rejection or toxic thoughts” (Leaf, 26).  And we have the power to not be offensive or take offense. Wouldn’t the world seem brighter with just this shift of thinking? What choice are you going to make today?  And what “thick truth” sticks with no harm?  

“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7  

“Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” -1 John 3:18

“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:32

“Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.” -Proverbs 17:9

 https://www.gotquestions.org/take-offense.html

Have faith 💚